@IndianaScott thank you for your message, it conveys so well the work and challenge of a caregiver.. I am sure all of us felt reflected in your message. And very important, you chose just the right words for dealing with those contradictory feelings of being overwhelmed and at the same time not being sure if we are doing every thing we could, and should. Your compassionate words help us to achieve peace of mind with those feelings. It is ok. We are doing the best we can. And we may make mistakes. And it is ok. We don't have to be the perfect caregiver (does she or he exists?), we don't need to fulfill other's expectations about what should be done. As much as some of us would like, no one has total control over what's happening. Openess, flexibility, humbleness, love, compassion both for those who we care for and for us, acceptance of the lack of control and of our certain mistakes, and love, love, love, is all we can expect for and it is all what we need. That's the challenge to embrace this stage of our lives as the leaning and personal development opportunity that this can be. It is not easy for some of us. But it is there for us to choose how we are going to live this stage and come trough.