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Acceptance: Anyone have difficulty accepting new limitations daily?

Posted by keeptrying @keeptrying, Dec 24, 2017

Does anyone have difficulty accepting new limitations daily? Is it helpful or a bit of denial to keep photos out of yourself riding, dancing, all of which are just fantasies at this point? Thank you.

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Agent Darien | @AgentDarien | Jan 1, 2018
In reply to @carnes "Hello, I’m Sharon and I have limitations I never had before and never thought of them..." + (show)
@carnes

Hello, I’m Sharon and I have limitations I never had before and never thought of them was I was younger and healthy. Such as, AFibrillation, COPD, stage 3 kidney disease, diabetes, traumatic brain injury, on and on etc. I certainly don’t believe it Denial to look back at what you use to do as longer as there is no morbid dread or fear about today. It is better to live in the moment. I find every morning when I make a grateful list say 4 things I’m grateful for. This starts my day off on a good happy note. Such as I’m grateful for another day of life. Being able to appreciate a beautiful sunset. A roof over my head. Or I could feel isolated and depressed. I also find when I take myself out of the equation and think of how I could call and help someone else, that helps me too. Most people are suffering with addictions or health problems, mental or physical, how sad. You could help with a kind word. It helps, it works.

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Love your Jar! Good idea. And, Agent Darien knows how loving expertise is given at the Mayo Clinic to all patients as well as him. We are so fortunate to have them as our team. Thank your husband and you for your giving while he was a Mayo MD.

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Harriet Hodgson | @harriethodgson1 | Jan 1, 2018
In reply to @carnes "Hello, I’m Sharon and I have limitations I never had before and never thought of them..." + (show)
@carnes

Hello, I’m Sharon and I have limitations I never had before and never thought of them was I was younger and healthy. Such as, AFibrillation, COPD, stage 3 kidney disease, diabetes, traumatic brain injury, on and on etc. I certainly don’t believe it Denial to look back at what you use to do as longer as there is no morbid dread or fear about today. It is better to live in the moment. I find every morning when I make a grateful list say 4 things I’m grateful for. This starts my day off on a good happy note. Such as I’m grateful for another day of life. Being able to appreciate a beautiful sunset. A roof over my head. Or I could feel isolated and depressed. I also find when I take myself out of the equation and think of how I could call and help someone else, that helps me too. Most people are suffering with addictions or health problems, mental or physical, how sad. You could help with a kind word. It helps, it works.

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Thanks for your comment. I'm putting the first note in my 2018 jar today.

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keeptrying | @keeptrying | Jan 22, 2018
In reply to @clydecaldwell "I struggle with that issue as well. My career was a police Chaplain, highly trained yet..." + (show)
@clydecaldwell

I struggle with that issue as well. My career was a police Chaplain, highly trained yet my years on Call provided me with huge unpleasant on site memories. After you retire from law Enforcement life changes. I am no longer part of a strong responding team
What do I do?
1. Growing up my sleep by nature was in bed at 9:30 up at 6:00. Years of up @ 2:00am, etc took me about a month but now on schedule, results excellent!
2. Went on HFLC eating and went from 214 to 174, feel great but close contact with my doctor for guidance.
3. it is very helpful to look at old pictures, letters, special plaques and awards, of good times, pleasant and rewards of my achievements.
The people in my life, those I mentored, all of course were younger officers and the plan for them was to learn and go forward.
4. I am a student of the Bible and enjoy such as the one referred to by Mr. Bishop, a happy brain, (thank you sir very good information). My study is conservative (my old friend from Kinta, oklahoma, Les Feldick has a good study and tape program that works for me. Find what works for you, we are all different.
It is My opinion and belief that as humans on this road of Life, we will have issues to overcome. I remembered that the problems I solved in the past lead to Success and provided the next and another opportunity in life.
Last, I write a lot. Keep a journal and just last night wrote a page on my accomplishments years ago, long lost my others but they are mine. ALL POSITIVE.
Don’t quit.
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Thank you for the way you describe how you structure life as it has changed. I too surround myself with photos,past achievements...they may be a few years old but still valid. As for writing, I try to keep my journal focused on positive as well. I am a 'quote collector' and find they are wonderful to remember in difficult times. Helen Keller and e.e. Cummings always seem to have a good word. "I cannot do everything, but I can do something."☺

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jshdma | @jshdma | Jan 22, 2018
In reply to @clydecaldwell "I struggle with that issue as well. My career was a police Chaplain, highly trained yet..." + (show)
@clydecaldwell

I struggle with that issue as well. My career was a police Chaplain, highly trained yet my years on Call provided me with huge unpleasant on site memories. After you retire from law Enforcement life changes. I am no longer part of a strong responding team
What do I do?
1. Growing up my sleep by nature was in bed at 9:30 up at 6:00. Years of up @ 2:00am, etc took me about a month but now on schedule, results excellent!
2. Went on HFLC eating and went from 214 to 174, feel great but close contact with my doctor for guidance.
3. it is very helpful to look at old pictures, letters, special plaques and awards, of good times, pleasant and rewards of my achievements.
The people in my life, those I mentored, all of course were younger officers and the plan for them was to learn and go forward.
4. I am a student of the Bible and enjoy such as the one referred to by Mr. Bishop, a happy brain, (thank you sir very good information). My study is conservative (my old friend from Kinta, oklahoma, Les Feldick has a good study and tape program that works for me. Find what works for you, we are all different.
It is My opinion and belief that as humans on this road of Life, we will have issues to overcome. I remembered that the problems I solved in the past lead to Success and provided the next and another opportunity in life.
Last, I write a lot. Keep a journal and just last night wrote a page on my accomplishments years ago, long lost my others but they are mine. ALL POSITIVE.
Don’t quit.
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I am amazed to read how so many people who have been through years of suffering and the permanent consequences of these various conditions are able to stress the positive. Sometimes these consequences mean that the very "something" that you are trained to do becomes precisely what you can no longer do.

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John, Volunteer Mentor | @johnbishop | Jan 22, 2018
In reply to @clydecaldwell "I struggle with that issue as well. My career was a police Chaplain, highly trained yet..." + (show)
@clydecaldwell

I struggle with that issue as well. My career was a police Chaplain, highly trained yet my years on Call provided me with huge unpleasant on site memories. After you retire from law Enforcement life changes. I am no longer part of a strong responding team
What do I do?
1. Growing up my sleep by nature was in bed at 9:30 up at 6:00. Years of up @ 2:00am, etc took me about a month but now on schedule, results excellent!
2. Went on HFLC eating and went from 214 to 174, feel great but close contact with my doctor for guidance.
3. it is very helpful to look at old pictures, letters, special plaques and awards, of good times, pleasant and rewards of my achievements.
The people in my life, those I mentored, all of course were younger officers and the plan for them was to learn and go forward.
4. I am a student of the Bible and enjoy such as the one referred to by Mr. Bishop, a happy brain, (thank you sir very good information). My study is conservative (my old friend from Kinta, oklahoma, Les Feldick has a good study and tape program that works for me. Find what works for you, we are all different.
It is My opinion and belief that as humans on this road of Life, we will have issues to overcome. I remembered that the problems I solved in the past lead to Success and provided the next and another opportunity in life.
Last, I write a lot. Keep a journal and just last night wrote a page on my accomplishments years ago, long lost my others but they are mine. ALL POSITIVE.
Don’t quit.
End

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I had the opportunity to listen to a presentation on the brain by Dr. Amit Sood last year and was able to take away some great tips. He has a website with a lot of short videos that are fun to listen to as well as informative. Here is a link to his site:

-- http://stressfree.org/

Here is his video explaining the brain's role in stress:

John

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clydecaldwell | @clydecaldwell | Jan 22, 2018
In reply to @clydecaldwell "I struggle with that issue as well. My career was a police Chaplain, highly trained yet..." + (show)
@clydecaldwell

I struggle with that issue as well. My career was a police Chaplain, highly trained yet my years on Call provided me with huge unpleasant on site memories. After you retire from law Enforcement life changes. I am no longer part of a strong responding team
What do I do?
1. Growing up my sleep by nature was in bed at 9:30 up at 6:00. Years of up @ 2:00am, etc took me about a month but now on schedule, results excellent!
2. Went on HFLC eating and went from 214 to 174, feel great but close contact with my doctor for guidance.
3. it is very helpful to look at old pictures, letters, special plaques and awards, of good times, pleasant and rewards of my achievements.
The people in my life, those I mentored, all of course were younger officers and the plan for them was to learn and go forward.
4. I am a student of the Bible and enjoy such as the one referred to by Mr. Bishop, a happy brain, (thank you sir very good information). My study is conservative (my old friend from Kinta, oklahoma, Les Feldick has a good study and tape program that works for me. Find what works for you, we are all different.
It is My opinion and belief that as humans on this road of Life, we will have issues to overcome. I remembered that the problems I solved in the past lead to Success and provided the next and another opportunity in life.
Last, I write a lot. Keep a journal and just last night wrote a page on my accomplishments years ago, long lost my others but they are mine. ALL POSITIVE.
Don’t quit.
End

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Yes, quotes are my favorite to keep as well.
Also, I still receive invites to attend events but am very careful and rarely attend, I still care for all the people but make the decision to keep my focus on those things I want to do as part of my lifestyle strategy.
It is working well and am pleased that I spend all the time I want doing carpentry and such, no phone, “my personal rendition of recluse”.
Few exceptions, this site is one.

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clydecaldwell | @clydecaldwell | Jan 22, 2018
In reply to @clydecaldwell "I struggle with that issue as well. My career was a police Chaplain, highly trained yet..." + (show)
@clydecaldwell

I struggle with that issue as well. My career was a police Chaplain, highly trained yet my years on Call provided me with huge unpleasant on site memories. After you retire from law Enforcement life changes. I am no longer part of a strong responding team
What do I do?
1. Growing up my sleep by nature was in bed at 9:30 up at 6:00. Years of up @ 2:00am, etc took me about a month but now on schedule, results excellent!
2. Went on HFLC eating and went from 214 to 174, feel great but close contact with my doctor for guidance.
3. it is very helpful to look at old pictures, letters, special plaques and awards, of good times, pleasant and rewards of my achievements.
The people in my life, those I mentored, all of course were younger officers and the plan for them was to learn and go forward.
4. I am a student of the Bible and enjoy such as the one referred to by Mr. Bishop, a happy brain, (thank you sir very good information). My study is conservative (my old friend from Kinta, oklahoma, Les Feldick has a good study and tape program that works for me. Find what works for you, we are all different.
It is My opinion and belief that as humans on this road of Life, we will have issues to overcome. I remembered that the problems I solved in the past lead to Success and provided the next and another opportunity in life.
Last, I write a lot. Keep a journal and just last night wrote a page on my accomplishments years ago, long lost my others but they are mine. ALL POSITIVE.
Don’t quit.
End

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I see that a lot. Perhaps the lure of fame and fortune when we are starting our journey in life clouds our personal purpose in life.
Once trained we “hit the Street,” work hard and what we focus on grows. Doing more, and more!

I had to find and write down a list of things important to just me and replant negative events and thoughts with positive and pleasant ones. It works well. Much happier now.

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clydecaldwell | @clydecaldwell | Jan 22, 2018
In reply to @clydecaldwell "I struggle with that issue as well. My career was a police Chaplain, highly trained yet..." + (show)
@clydecaldwell

I struggle with that issue as well. My career was a police Chaplain, highly trained yet my years on Call provided me with huge unpleasant on site memories. After you retire from law Enforcement life changes. I am no longer part of a strong responding team
What do I do?
1. Growing up my sleep by nature was in bed at 9:30 up at 6:00. Years of up @ 2:00am, etc took me about a month but now on schedule, results excellent!
2. Went on HFLC eating and went from 214 to 174, feel great but close contact with my doctor for guidance.
3. it is very helpful to look at old pictures, letters, special plaques and awards, of good times, pleasant and rewards of my achievements.
The people in my life, those I mentored, all of course were younger officers and the plan for them was to learn and go forward.
4. I am a student of the Bible and enjoy such as the one referred to by Mr. Bishop, a happy brain, (thank you sir very good information). My study is conservative (my old friend from Kinta, oklahoma, Les Feldick has a good study and tape program that works for me. Find what works for you, we are all different.
It is My opinion and belief that as humans on this road of Life, we will have issues to overcome. I remembered that the problems I solved in the past lead to Success and provided the next and another opportunity in life.
Last, I write a lot. Keep a journal and just last night wrote a page on my accomplishments years ago, long lost my others but they are mine. ALL POSITIVE.
Don’t quit.
End

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Thank you. Have s great day as well.

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Gary, Alumni Mentor | @gman007 | Jan 22, 2018
In reply to @clydecaldwell "I struggle with that issue as well. My career was a police Chaplain, highly trained yet..." + (show)
@clydecaldwell

I struggle with that issue as well. My career was a police Chaplain, highly trained yet my years on Call provided me with huge unpleasant on site memories. After you retire from law Enforcement life changes. I am no longer part of a strong responding team
What do I do?
1. Growing up my sleep by nature was in bed at 9:30 up at 6:00. Years of up @ 2:00am, etc took me about a month but now on schedule, results excellent!
2. Went on HFLC eating and went from 214 to 174, feel great but close contact with my doctor for guidance.
3. it is very helpful to look at old pictures, letters, special plaques and awards, of good times, pleasant and rewards of my achievements.
The people in my life, those I mentored, all of course were younger officers and the plan for them was to learn and go forward.
4. I am a student of the Bible and enjoy such as the one referred to by Mr. Bishop, a happy brain, (thank you sir very good information). My study is conservative (my old friend from Kinta, oklahoma, Les Feldick has a good study and tape program that works for me. Find what works for you, we are all different.
It is My opinion and belief that as humans on this road of Life, we will have issues to overcome. I remembered that the problems I solved in the past lead to Success and provided the next and another opportunity in life.
Last, I write a lot. Keep a journal and just last night wrote a page on my accomplishments years ago, long lost my others but they are mine. ALL POSITIVE.
Don’t quit.
End

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I think I have learned to accept that I will never be able to resume my career as a financial advisor as I don't think I would be a prudent fiduciary. I still play around with a tiny amount in the market and manage some for my mother, but am very careful to understand the decisions I make and always sleep on any idea. I think acceptance and replacement is key to trying to stay positive. I have posted my struggles with depression in that group and have to work at being positive; it is definitely not my default way of thinking. I think you are correct about those who post here and are so positive despite long term physical ailments. I guess the idea that it is your attitude towards what happens to you that determines who you are or choose to be and I applaud all of those who choose positivity.

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keeptrying | @keeptrying | Jan 22, 2018
In reply to @clydecaldwell "I struggle with that issue as well. My career was a police Chaplain, highly trained yet..." + (show)
@clydecaldwell

I struggle with that issue as well. My career was a police Chaplain, highly trained yet my years on Call provided me with huge unpleasant on site memories. After you retire from law Enforcement life changes. I am no longer part of a strong responding team
What do I do?
1. Growing up my sleep by nature was in bed at 9:30 up at 6:00. Years of up @ 2:00am, etc took me about a month but now on schedule, results excellent!
2. Went on HFLC eating and went from 214 to 174, feel great but close contact with my doctor for guidance.
3. it is very helpful to look at old pictures, letters, special plaques and awards, of good times, pleasant and rewards of my achievements.
The people in my life, those I mentored, all of course were younger officers and the plan for them was to learn and go forward.
4. I am a student of the Bible and enjoy such as the one referred to by Mr. Bishop, a happy brain, (thank you sir very good information). My study is conservative (my old friend from Kinta, oklahoma, Les Feldick has a good study and tape program that works for me. Find what works for you, we are all different.
It is My opinion and belief that as humans on this road of Life, we will have issues to overcome. I remembered that the problems I solved in the past lead to Success and provided the next and another opportunity in life.
Last, I write a lot. Keep a journal and just last night wrote a page on my accomplishments years ago, long lost my others but they are mine. ALL POSITIVE.
Don’t quit.
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Thank you for your insights. I really did love my career at Arthritis Foundation, but I know I realistically could not do it effectively. The search for what can replace it is one of the most difficult things I have ever done.

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