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Mother age 81, very challenging to care for
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@dbamos1945 , thank you. Her diet is pretty good. She refuses all medical help or psychotherapy. She has something wrong with one leg and drags it. And uses a walker to get around the house. I have not been able to tempt her to leave the house in many months.
I do try to live my own life, including going out of town sometimes. Then I hire someone to check on her every other day, but she dislikes almost all of them and even the one she likes, she will tell not to come. There is only so much I can do.
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@topaz23: Your situation hit a nerve with me. My Mother lived her life exhibiting Narcissistic behavior, manipulating two of my young family members until she chose to die at 104. She tried to include me at every turn; however our history together spoke loudly and I refused her every command.
After reading your post I was alarmed by the similarity of your situation and wanted to save you from heartache.
If you are truly living your own life you will adhere to your emotional and physical boundaries while relating to your Mother’s care. I wish you a happy, fulfilled future.