Carmelita has passed away.

Posted by 4carm @4carm, Sep 28 11:14am

My wife, Carmelita passed away on 8/21/26. She chose to do chemo even though she was stage 4 with METs to her liver. She went through 3 rounds of chemo that didn't work and eventually had Mets in her lungs. She ended up in the hospital 3 times. Over a period of 14 months. She did not survive her last last administration because of a stroke that put an to her suffering. I'm thankful that she doesn't have to wake up every morning to another day of misery. I have stayed on this site to see how people are doing with the Daraxonrasib which was her next drug to try. But it has been over a month since she passed away and it is time to let her go.

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casey1959 | @casey1959 | Sep 28 1:52pm

Prayers for you . So sorry for your loss. I totally understand not wanting a spouse to suffer. 🙏

kyshoor | @kyshoor | Sep 28 6:43pm

I am so sorry for your loss.

suelannon | @suelannon | Sep 29 7:27am

I am so sorry for your Loss. My Husband just passed on 9-15-2026. It is a relief to see that their suffering
is over but you never stop missing them. I hope that all of your memories of her will ease your Loss.

Turkey, Volunteer Mentor | @tomrennie | Sep 29 10:35am

@4carm I am so sorry to hear about your wife. Hopefully, you can find some solace that she doesn't have to wake up to another day of misery anymore. My heart goes out to you.

4carm | @4carm | Sep 29 12:48pm

In reply to @suelannon "I am so sorry for your Loss. My Husband just passed on 9-15-2026. It is a..." + (show)

@suelannon I have many memories of the resent past. I hope those memories fade soon.

amiller7x7 | @amiller7x7 | Sep 30 10:24am

I am saddened - your story is poignant particularly those of us with spouses on the same trajectory. My heart goes out to you and suelannon as well.

4carm | @4carm | Sep 30 12:09pm

In reply to @amiller7x7 "I am saddened - your story is poignant particularly those of us with spouses on the..." + (show)

@amiller7x7 thank you

4carm | @4carm | Sep 30 5:33pm

In reply to @suelannon "I am so sorry for your Loss. My Husband just passed on 9-15-2026. It is a..." + (show)

@suelannon I am sorry for your loss. Prior to Carm's passing I didn't comprehend the depth of pain that overwhelms the heart and mind when a spouse passes away.

Colleen Young, Connect Director | @colleenyoung | Oct 4 9:54am

In reply to @4carm "@suelannon I am sorry for your loss. Prior to Carm's passing I didn't comprehend the depth..." + (show)

@4carm @suelannon, as you navigate this new chapter, please know that there is support here on Mayo Clinic Connect, should you want to connect:

- Loss & Grief Support Group https://connect.mayoclinic.org/group/loss-grief/

suelannon | @suelannon | Oct 4 3:20pm

In reply to @colleenyoung "@4carm @suelannon, as you navigate this new chapter, please know that there is support here on..." + (show)

@colleenyoung Thank you so much. I definitely will.

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