Remembering KateMN - losing a virtual friend hurts too
On August 4th our dear mentor, Katherine left us. Her son, Scott, sends this message that she wanted to share with you.
I HAVE A PAINTING .. IT SAYS .. “TO TRAVEL IS TO LIVE”. THE FUN OF RESEARCHING .. PLANNING .. TRAVELING IS GONE FOREVER FROM MY LIFE. HOWEVER I HAVE BEEN BLESSED TO TRAVEL SINCE MY 50’S TO ALL THE CONTINENTS BUT ANTARCTICA .. MY FAVORITE COUNTRIES .. MANY TIMES. IF MY FUTURE HELD GAZING OUT AT THE MEDITERRANEAN SEA FROM OUR BELOVED ITALIAN AMALFI COAST .. YES! I WOULD GRAB IT WITH BOTH HANDS!
MY SPIRITUALITY AND BELIEF SYSTEM .. NONE OF US KNOW WHAT IS ON THE “OTHER SIDE” BE WE CHRISTIAN, BUDDHIST, JEW, HINDU, MUSLIM OR WHATEVER FAITH .. UNTIL WE “PASS OVER”. THEN AND ONLY THEN WILL WE TRULY KNOW WHAT IS ON THE “OTHER SIDE” .. DESPITE THE DESTRUCTION RELIGION HAS WROUGHT ON PLANET EARTH. BUT I HAVE EVERY CONFIDENCE THAT AS I “PASS OVER” I AM GOING TO BE MET BY GRANDMOTHER BENNETT AND GRANDMOTHER HUNNICUTT WITH THEIR LOVING HANDS TO HELP ME “PASS OVER”. THIS I BELIEVE.
*I WAS TOLD MANY YEARS AGO THAT IN REALITY “EACH OF US IS THE STAR OF OUR OWN SHOW” .. MEANING THAT EACH OF US GO ON IN TIME WITH OUR OWN LIVES .. SO I WANT EACH OF YOU TO QUICKLY BE ” THE STAR OF OUR OWN SHOW” .. LIVING YOUR LIFE AS WELL AS I DID WILL BE YOUR BEST TRIBUTE TO ME!
I HAVE HAD A FULL LIFE. I HAVE A LIFE I CAN FEEL PROUD OF. I HAVE LIVED LIFE ETHICALLY .. LOVINGLY. I RAISED ONE SON THAT I AM VERY PROUD OF AND ONE SON THAT HAS RISEN ABOVE MANY DIFFICULTIES IN HIS LIFE THAT I AM ALSO PROUD OF. I HAD A VERY SUCCESSFUL CAREER IN AN ERA IN WHICH IT WAS VERY DIFFICULT FOR WOMEN TO SUCCEED .. ALLOWING ME TO ACCUMULATE A PORTFOLIO SUFFICIENT TO ESTABLISH A SCHOLARSHIP AT THE U OF MONTANA IN A SUBSTANTIAL AMOUNT FOR GIRLS FROM MY BACKGROUND. I TRAVEL EVERY CONTINENT BUT ANTARCTICA .. FAVORITE COUNTRIES MANY TIMES OVER .. ONE OF MY FAVORITE PIECES OF ART SAYS “TO TRAVEL IS TO LIVE” .. THAT SAYS IT ALL! THIS SAID .. I HAVE LIVED WELL .. LOVED WELL. IT IS NOW TIME. GOOD BYE.
KATHERINE
Katherine -- Wife, Mother, Grandmother, Mentor
Back in 2011 @katemn posted a simple message on Connect with “I am new to Mayo online .. I was hoping to find others…” That single post has grown to establish an incredibly supportive and knowledge community of people helping each other live well with MAC and bronchiectasis. Katherine’s relentless trumpeting of the message “knowledge is learning to advocate for yourself. Knowledge is taking back the power over your health care” will forever remain with all the members of the MAC group and continue to echo throughout Connect. Her presence and words will continue to comfort, educate and strengthen to the community.
Thank you forever, Katherine.
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I just wanted to give my condolences to Katherine's family and to the Connect family. Katherine was there to steer many of us toward taking our health into our own hands and fighting for 2nd opinions from experts and getting the medical attention we needed. She was a pro at saying the right thing to so many people especially the newcomers but doing it with love and grace. I admire her willingness to give of herself even when she was fighting her own battles. She was a wonderful lady and will be missed greatly! And now, thank you to the mentors for carrying on where she left off. Jan
@tdrell Thank you for the kind words Terri, I found them uplifting as I don't feel so hot today. Want to be or not; I consider you my 'right hand gal'. You have responded to 'newbies' when I have been abscent, and you have been wonderful (and @ling123 too) with researching things to help us all understand better. I am grateful for the contributions. - Terri M.
@tdrell Terri, Oh how I wish I was going to Denver with you! I do have a question for you to ask while there. Please ask why is theret a big divide among physicians on how to treat this disease. My doctor thinks it's 'Old School" to automatically put people on the BIG THREE, some frown on prophylactic alternating treatment w/antibiotics to ward off MAC and Pseudomonas. My guess is the answer you will get is "Every case is different, blah, blah blah...." and while that is true, we are talking about first time diagnosis, and the fact that some drs poo-poo ideas right off the bat on how to properly treat. Tell them, this is all very confusing. I will try to think of more questions as well.
Wow, shocked! I had only been on the forum a few weeks before she died but just figured it out. Helpful, even in death. She was so positive with me, I was pretty lost before all the knowledge from this forum. i'm one of the lucky ones that coughs up tons of blood, terrifying, until I found out not alone. Goodbye Katherine, You helped me a lot and were very kind. xoxo Christa
Heathert and Ling123 and all,,,,be thinking of questions for the "experts" and sending to me....we have two months to go...last year they had a panel of the speakers and we could ask our questions and they would decide who had the expertise to answer. I asked if they could ever envision having any type of vaccine to protect the vulnerable from NTM....Dr Daley of NJH said NO.....like it was impossible....hours later l recalled that there is a type of protection for TB....NTM"s cousin....BCG....used in some other countries ...l believe at birth. I guess one of the differences though is that there are 171 minimum of the NTM bugs versus the tuberculosis mycobacterium. tdrell
Windwalker aka Terri l hope the limbs and sore spots are slightly better today....am sending the white light your way....and a reminder to BE CAREFUL .....which is a laugh from the person in 1992 while dressing in bedroom in a hurry put two legs into one Jean leg ....fell...broke my ankle.....25 years later chums tell me that they think of my klutzville when they are in a hurry and putting on slacks..
you are too kind and soooo thoughtful...am sure Ling123 all others agree.
tdrell aka terri
windwalker...printed out and will go into workshop folder...tdrell
@tdrell Ha, ha.... I was laughing out loud when I tried to picture you putting two legs into one pant leg because I can so relate because I'm a klutz myself. My husband's favorite line, "I'm amazed you are still standing after all the accidents you've had over the years". Although I have not graduated to your level yet, I wouldn't be surprised that one day my klutzness would end up killing me before my Bronchiectasis even begins to try.
And, yes, I totally agree with you that @windwalker Terri M is a great mentor and a very kind person, and a thoughtful friend. You are probably the sickest of all of us in this group (not counting Katherine). Yet you are still in here everyday trying to help, to comfort and to encourage others. Not enough can be said about our gratitude and respect for you, Terri.
Hi @tdrell, I have just posted about a pseud vaccine , have a read, and also about breaking down biofilms, all going on here in NZ only 1.5hrs away from me.
I will get some questions ready, thanks for thinking of all of us .Heather
Heathert....exciting ...reading what you wrote re vaccine for pseuodo !!! And about biofilms...will await at your convenience questions for workshop...we still have 2 months!!! Take care .tdrell.