@laren3 At 68 my sex drive is nearly 100% gone ): but when I did....I used Carlson Vitamin E suppositories and ID lube in particular the Millenium silicone lube. It lasts forever and is water proof, however be forewarned it can stain sheets and clothes. For a bit I was using it as a moisturizer but I stopped using it all due to sensitivity. I cannot vouch for coconut oil as a sexual lubricant but I think anything moist even olive oil would work just use lots of it, keep applying it and enjoy, hope that helps!