Good morning, @gratia I ran into the same issue with my wife. I know everyone’s journey and patient are different, but the following worked for me.

I found someone who agreed they’d play along. I told my wife the household chores were more than I could get done so i needed someone to come in to help me with the house 2 hours a week. My wife agreed since it was the house and not her needing care. Within just a couple visits my help was sitting with my wife, asking what she needed, chatting, etc.

They morphed into a caregiver without my wife realizing it and she didn’t get upset about it.

Just an idea that worked for us.

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