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Best way to conceal Incontinence Products at work?
I work in a large building and we have two large central bathrooms. We don't have any private bathrooms anywhere and we have no lockable private bathrooms. Occasionally my leakage gets to the point that I need a thin pad. I have a cache of thin pads locked in my one and only private cabinets. I have a small cloth bag that I put my pads in along with some " Dude wipes", etc. Almost every time I have leakage and I go to put a pad in either on the way to the bathroom or on my way out someone notices my little bag and either gives me a look, or worse asks me what's in the bag. I usually tell them "personal items" and walk away. I'm getting tired of being asked etc. I can't take my backpack in there cause that would be even worse. I don't have a Murse or man bag. I thought the little cloth bag would not be noticed but apparently I'm the topic of some conversations about what's in my little cloth bag. If you take pads, etc to work how do you transport them to the bathroom? I can not put one in my underwear in my office. I have a huge glass door. I also don't want to put one in my underwear everyday and waste them. Suggestions?
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@daveys
If person still works it is a big deal - he might loose his job because his management might not want to deal with future absences and paying for sick days etc. It is not unusual for workers to get pink slip in the USA when they get sick.
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I wish your husband every success with his treatment and a smooth recovery.
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2 Reactions@surftohealth88 Wouldn't such be illegal and employer would be liable for wrongful termination and workplace retaliation?
@daveys
It would but who can prove that illness was the cause of job termination ? Employers wait for "next quarter" when there are some other "terminations" and lump it all together as "downsizing" . It happened to my husband 20 years ago. Also, our family friend who is in managerial position was ordered to let go a person after that person naively disclosed to coworkers that he has cancer. Our friend was distraught and constantly repeated "I will end up in hell" but was powerless. We have member here who got a "package" 3 months post surgery , etc etc. It happens all the time, unfortunately.
@surftohealth88
Not true, highly unusual although it can happen, but usually involves additional circumstances.
@wheel1
I already listed examples about which I know personally. And I have many more but it is waste of time , honestly.
My sister lost a job after she took a leave of 4 weeks for hand rehabilitation. Previous 5 years in a row she was nominated for "best worker" award in her department. I can continue on and on.
"Additional circumstances" - sure 🙄 ... *sigh
@surftohealth88
Not true
@wheel1 I disagree . It happens all the time in corporate world. Spent 40 yrs there. I agree with surf. Especially the age group involved. You are dispensable. It wont be because you have prostate cancer or your age. Any form of prejudice is illegal. It will be a passed over promotion. or a slight downward tick in your performance review or moved to a job that makes performance impossible. You can have the best boss in the world and suddenly you get a new one. Not saying it will happen but it happens. Its how they deal with healthy attrition.
@tuckerp
Also high up in corporate world, not saying it does not happen on occasions, certainly bosses let go of people they don’t get along with too. When someone loses their job they always never accept it the reason. You have 25% of the really hard workers, 50% of good workers doing their job and 25% that get by. Now in that 25% like all parts you could break that group down again and they all have the same medical infirmaries as people in the other groups, so if their is a cutback and that group gets cut as any of the groups, their will be cancers and everything else. That certainly is a good argument to support seniority, last in first out, but then the long time workers that are slackers are protected. I am just saying as a general statement that is not true.