Hi Em. Congratulations on your transplant ! Cool , cool ! I am so sorry though for what you are going through. It sounds like you are handling the transplant much better than your Mom is. I know it is hard when you are being yelled at but it may help to remember that this is tough on caregivers too. My wife was mine and she had real rough patches when we were in AZ for two months. Part was the stress of if I was going to make it but also our caregivers back in CO dropped the ball with our home, dog, etc.. For your Mom it must be hard having to think you might not make it. We lost one of our three sons to a heart attack years ago and my wife took it very badly as expected. A mom should never outlive her child and that possibility is something she may be dealing with .
My wife did much better after a few months and hopefully your Mom will too. I would just let your missing stuff go. Can't help the past, not your fault but oh well. My only suggestion is wait for a time when she is in a good mood and try to (gently) talk to her about it. Telling her you love her but need peace. Best of luck Em. Prayers up.