My fiancée and I have been together 9 years and this past year after her diagnosis of breast cancer has put us at the most stressful odds of our relationship. I know I'm not to take her outbursts personally but it is hard. I over apologize and when that doesn't work we are arguing at each other's nerves. She apologizes at times and I try to receive it positively but I know the next argument is lurking hidden around the corner. I want to leave but I cannot because I said I would be here for her. She has refused care also after being turned down by one surgeon who refused to do the lumpectomy because of her heart condition. Another surgeon two hours away retired and this one is male and she seams to be avoiding him. The local hospital wants to do the procedure but she doesn't trust the institute as they harmed her during a heart procedure. She canceled her appointment with the male surgeon today. I am at a total loss of what to do. I am struggling to hang in here and support her.