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Death of Husband: The hardest thing I've had to deal with
We were married 37 years when he died 9/16 at 69 ears old. He has metastatic melanoma since 7/22/19 and was not able to handle the immunity treatments at the end, at that point lots of other problems started that brought him to death. This is the hardest thing I have had to deal with and wanted to do group therapy but no one is doing it. I feel that would be the best for me. I have started counseling but its only my 2nd time. I keep saying i want to feel him or see some sign that he is with me as everyone says it happens, but Neither for me. I think this is what is bringing me the most crying and depression. He was a great husband, father & grandfather. So sad that his 2nd grandchild is due 11/21/20 and he wont see her.
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@njed thank you for that advice, I am sorry for your loss. It's only been 7 weeks since I lost my husband and it's so hard to get thru each hour of the day.
@catherine55 Only 7 weeks out, yes...the feeling of being paralyzed is normal and I felt that way for several months. Almost hard to believe. Two steps forward and one back, likely that's now or even one forward and two back. In time, all that will improve. Again, time. For the first four months, I lost 35 pounds and just wanted to get from one day to another. Then eventually one week to the next. Things will improve slowly. Take care of yourself.
@njed thank you so much. I pray for peace,my husband would never want me to be this unhappy. Your words help.
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1 ReactionMy thoughts and prayers are with you all. I am 82 years old and I have traveled this road twice.
My first husband died in 1990 from lung cancer. So I know what is like to watch someone die slowly. My children were 18 and 21 and lived with me so that was a help.
In 2001 I remarried a wonderful man. He had a cardiac catheterization in March 2025. Surgeon punctured his main artery and he died the next day,
Losing a spouse either way is not easy, This is the first time I ever lived alone. The Serenity Prayer is a mainstay for me, I know I will meet them again when I pass, Eileen
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4 Reactions@catherine55 I am so terribly sorry for the loss of your husband.
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