@dptrainor

I am so sorry that you have to deal with PC and initial diagnosis is shocking and demoralizing for everybody *hugs. You just got the news and it would be actually strange to feel calm and confident : ((( - I know that it does not make you feel any better but I just want to reiterate what everybody else already said here, whatever you are feeling is understandable and expected. : ((

At the same time, if your feelings are overwhelming and paralyzing and preventing you from functioning and from having strength an stamina to fight this beast, by all means it is OK to seek help and get some mild sedative or anti- depressant to help you go through this initial stage.

Yes, so much to learn in such short period of time : (((. BUT, just by knowing that you have to do it is giving you amazing advantage over poor people who do not know where to turn or what to read or where to go. The second positive factor is that you are diagnosed "today" and not just 10 or even 5 years ago - research in this area advanced sooooo much that nowadays PC treatments are numerous and most of the time provide great success !

As Jeff and Phil said, your choice might be easier since one node is positive and RT (radiation) might be a better treatment in your case. I am not a doctor, of course, and you will make your choice in cooperation with your doctor, but that is what I would choose for my husband if his initial diagnoses was like yours. Unfortunately, they wrongly assumed that his PC was contained.

Wishing you the best of luck in achieving complete eradication of PC in very near future - all is possible !!! Every single case is different and results different but mostly successful 👍🍀
Sending you healing vibes and hugssss ...