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@kartwk
I'm so sorry you're having to deal with fraud or identity theft on top of everything else! Sounds like he might have clicked on one of those fishing emails, texts, or popups that infect your phone or laptop or steal your credentials with phony banking websites.
If you haven't already, it might be a good idea to get a durable power of attorney in place while he still has the capacity to consent (for both finances and health).
It may also be time to revoke online access to all bank accounts. Maybe convince him by saying it's a way to keep the bad guys from accessing his accounts, and he can always check his balances by visiting the bank in person.
Regarding your question about the PCP, he just never took my comments seriously when I described the problems H was having. He didn't even do a simple cognitive test until it was already too late. His attitude was that H was just having the typical elderly memory problems and didn't need a neurology referral. Are you having any better luck at getting a diagnosis?
Wishing peace and strength for you.
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@bluesky22
I just want to tell you personally how good it made me feel when you hared your experience with the PCP. Too many PCPs brush this problem off as just old age. Seniors do not get the health care we need because we are seen as old, at the end of the road, etc.
Now, do not blame yourself for speaking harshly to him during this time. I find it is impossible not to. He gets verbally abusive at times and has really gone after me. Abuse is abuse, period. We go to the grocery store, and he will start chastising me as if I were a 3-year-old. It is embarrassing.
He walks in pain constantly and always moans and groans 24-7 which is a terrible thing for me to deal with. He could have had hip surgery 10+ years ago but was afraid to and kept and keeps making up excuses. On this I have no pity for him. It was always his lungs, the timing, he did not like the surgeon - we went to several; he does not do good under anesthesia - who does. Now it is his age, he is 86. I know he does it looking for pity and sympathy from me because he does not do it around the doc, or anyone else. IMHO his constant moaning and groaning is cruel and unusual punishment on me.
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@bluesky221
The bank issue scared him and the lady at the bank told him the same thing. Luckily, we got the money back in 2 days, but he is not changing all his passwords daily or two times a day, for now.
You experienced the same thing I have been dealing with concerning our PCP. It has been so frustrating.