@pta thank you for your good thoughts. Does your son do therapy? I think it helps. If he can get on Medicaid it’s covered as are the meds (yes, it’s harder for people that need it under this new hardcore admin that has cut back everything here to fight unwanted wars). Sorry I digress. We have tried to get him interested in things, hobbies, church, library, volunteering, sports, but nothing did. We finally got him a cheap membership to Planet Fitness, he was athletic and slim but gained weight with the meds, and that has really helped. Plus at least it gets him out of his apt a few times a week. He has his own apt nearby now, which helps his independence. I worry about him not having any friends, like he did before in school and when he was working, but he has discovered some online friends thru gaming and they all play station every day. Most of the day I’m afraid, but it’s better than nothing! Never had any support from extended family ( they always ignored us, when we lived in the same small Oklahoma town with them, and for no good reason last year his eldest brother secretly created a trust that cut my husband out of his parents inheritance, as he has POA). We found it by accident looking at online county records. Some nonsense excuse that he moved away and didn’t send money home regularly to support the other deadbeat brothers and families who lived in all the family rent houses with their families for free, as did the eldest brother) Bizarre. Yes I have issues over the whole thing and am bitter. We feel like we are on our own here too. Please share all you want, I think it helps to discuss with others in similar situation as we keep all this to ourselves as a shameful, dirty secret. And it shouldn’t be. But who could comprehend all this? One time one of my husband’s brothers commented that our son was just drinking or getting high too much. Ignorance. It’s hard for me not to blame them for everything.
Our son he does keep in close contact with us and both his siblings who live out of town, and we watch him closely. That and the video games is about it. Sorry, back to you: I will pray for your son that he does not completely give up and can keep looking for something that can bring him some joy. Music is great, maybe even some beginner lessons would be good for him. I know it takes self motivation though, I get it. Hugs your way….