I stay in my home for months at a time.
Hello, We all have so much going on. I seriously need help but my wife tells me the doctors don't know what to do or how to treat my various health issues. I've had countless MRI's, CT, Scans, X-Rays, etc.. I have a closet filled with business jackets, sports jackets, dress pants, and so any shirts.... Nothing comes close to fitting. I am grotesque! Over the years I stayed active, exercised regularly, and maintained good physical condition. But while trying to stay healthy, I've ruptured my L4/L5 Spine, torn my right ACL, countless sprained ankles, wrists, etc.
I worked for a mfg company wearing a number of hats over a 38 year career. Many of the hats caused much stress trying to keep up to 900 people at on time Safe, Productive, Organized, Profitable. During the evenings I worked as an agent/manager for an entertainer. If I mentioned his last name most of you would recognize the name except the person I represented is a second generation. I worked 7 days a week, 16 hour day's. I'm not dumb but I really had to work far longer than most if I want to achieve. It seemed my mind was constantly racing at full speed, so much stress. One evening (about 10 years ago) I sat down for dinner , I specifically remember taking a bite, it was warm and very good. he next thing I remember my wife is trying to help me lay down. She is little but strong. I had passed out. After extensive testing, I was diagnosed with Adrenal Insufficiency. Around the same time, my previous spine and knee injuries (both had had multiple surgeries) began flaring up again. What was once a strong, healthy body began to change rapidly and dramatically.
I experienced an “adrenal crisis" and have been to the ER more than once. my abdomen would swell severely and never return to normal. My endocrinologist that I had an Adrenal Crisis, he said "No you didn't". The last crisis my BP was recorded right away and extremely low. When I told him the numbers the last time he was kinder. I never realized how many calories you can burn just by being on your feet. I've never been overweight but I had gained 40 lbs as my back continued to get worse. Approximately three years ago, my feet, ankles, and legs and abdomen began swelling excessively. I was diagnosed with Lymphedema. Since then, I have undergone 12 procedures to help manage the swelling in my legs and now wear compression socks. I also have a compression suit that also covers my abdomen. Unfortunately, despite more than a year of treatment, I have seen no improvement.
At one time I was 6’2”, weighed approximately 210 pounds, and was in good shape. Today I weigh nearly 290 pounds, largely due to the severe swelling and fluid retention. My abdomen has become extremely enlarged, and the spine pain has become overwhelming. I can no longer walk without assistance. To take a shower, even if I sit in the shower chair by the time I get dressed the pain is so severe my cane, walker and wife are needed.
I have consulted countless physicians, including spine specialists, gastroenterologists, and other medical professionals. Despite repeated testing, appointments, and evaluations, I continue hearing the same response: that they are unsure how to help. I have repeatedly asked doctors about the possibility of performing a procedure called paracentesis — a relatively common procedure used to drain excess fluid from the abdomen — but my concerns have largely been dismissed. In fact when mentioning "draining" my abdomen the doctors all have laughed about it.
At this point, I am deeply concerned about my health and quality of life. There have been months at a time when I have never stepped outside except for medical appointments. During one Dr visit, a former coworker walked past me in the waiting-room, I questioned if I should say anything because of the way I look then decided to say, "Hello Keith", he turned around, looked at me for a moment, then he said in a Loud voice, "Man, You got FAT!" Moments like that are painful because they do not reflect the reality of what I am experiencing physically and medically (and mentally).
My diet is very limited and primarily consists of protein, vegetables, and Greek yogurt. Exercise has become extremely difficult because of the pain, swelling, and mobility limitations.
If anyone reading this with medical knowledge or experience — may have insight, recommendations, or guidance regarding possible treatment options, I would sincerely appreciate it. Thank you for taking the time to read this. I have had intense therapy for my spine and knee (The pain became much worse after months of therapy. I also went to a licensed therapist for my lymphedema. The one thing that I felt was helping me was water therapy. Unfortunately the indoor therapy pool had a leak and the owner of the clinic was tired of dealing with it and closed it. I live in a small town in southern Indiana, this was the only such pool that I could get to. No longer able to drive because of all the medications I honestly feel like the clock is ticking. I requested if my family Dr. would at least request a personal therapy pool to insurance. I'm not asking for a big fancy indoor pool, just something that would be deep enough and enough do allow me to have some movement. Again, he laughed. *When I began my ramble I mentioned that I always struggled with learning, etc... I have been diagnosed with ADHD and Dyslexia. I am not dumb. Even though I can never go back at least I understand why I struggled and still do when I want to learn how to use an video editing tool for example, All those buttons, paragraph after paragraph of words all melt and blend. It's difficult to explain. My dear wife, the company she worked for shut down last month. She mows cleans the gutters, she does everything. If anyone knows of a way to make enough money online to help pay the bills I appreciate any suggestions or assistance.
What I deal with 24/7: Adrenal Insufficiency, Lymphedema, Fibromyalgia, Sleep apnea, Irreparable spine injury, right knee severe knee patellar subluxation, BPH, Severe Chronic Pain, ADHD and Dyslexia and a few other things I would rather not post/. Thank you to anyone who took the time to read this. I realize if you're here then you are struggling with your health. May God Bless and Protect you. Sincerest regards, Tom
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Gosh, so sorry to hear about all your issues. How is your wife doing?
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2 Reactions@oneputt Thank you. My wife is doing great. Thank you for asking.
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1 Reaction@leslie2121 Thank you. Yes, I have an endocrinologist.
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1 ReactionHas the Adrenal Insufficiency been addressed? High cortisol along with hormone imbalances resulting from Adrenal Insufficiency can cause many of the issues you mentioned, along with weight gain.
Meanwhile you’ll want to keep fluids moving in your body - at the very least pump your feet up/down while sitting. Or do calf pushups (soleus pushups) - a well researched exercise done while seated, find out how to do it on the web.
Taskrabbit is a company that hires temp/contract employees to do a wide variety of work. They do hire work-from-home, although I’d guess that might be limited. Jobs are based on whatever is currently needed. That might be data entry, running errands, assist with event set-up, or assembling IKEA furniture at someone’s home.
Technology now does great at supporting dyslexia. Try to get familiar with the tools that will help you the most often. Most smartphones will read to you the text you took a photo of. Most computers will read aloud text you have selected. The Chrome browser has good reading tools.
If you’re trying to learn video editing and there’s so many controls each with their own set of directions, try assigning a color to each button and link that color in your mind to how that button works. Adding the extra sensory feature can boost memory retrieval. Perhaps blue for background control, pick a color for sound tracking, etc.
As usual, I type long answers, so “select” this text and choose “speak” so you don’t need to read the words.
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2 Reactions@charliesophiedaisyro Thank you. I am too ashamed to be seen but the bottom line is cost. I have no additional income. Which clinics did you go to? Thank you.
@pennieh Thank you so much.
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2 Reactions@triciaot AI, yes. My body doesn't produce enough cortisol. I should be skinny? Thank you so much for the information. I saw AI video editing coming, being a fmr editor I thought I would be able to jump on the AI editing train and be at a cinematic level by now. I can't seem to do much after Chatgpt. Thank you.
You may need Physical Therapy and cardiology consult.
Urology check up may also be needed. Did you self medicate w any Over The Counter medicines?
Go to nearby hospital E.R. again. Some virus is going on now that causes certain problems. I do not know for sure.
Hope you feel better Tom.
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You said that you talked to your family doctor about the pool situation. Have you gone to a large teaching hospital where they can look at the whole picture? I am so sorry you are going through all this.
@parrot53 Thank you. I'm ashamed for anyone to see me. Do you know of any medical locations that can study me Head to toe at no cost?? Thank you, Tom