Shocked by aging process

@raebaby Love it! You are a hero. I am the caretaker of a 70 year old husband who thinks he needs a mother. Am sick of it and I filed for divorce. Life is too short to be miserable another minute.

He told me he was "tired" of me being sick and couldn't hack it anymore. Maybe he is what is making me sick....?

@slarson14 You are right. There is no sense of taking care of someone who blames you because you get sick. You know you will be taking care of him when you are 80 and not be appreciated for it , so I say go for your freedom girl!

It took me more than once, but at age 48 I finally married Mr right ! We've been married 15 great years.
My only regret is that I married with such low standards before, no regrets leaving the exes! Be alone and be happy or with someone who is also a generally happy person.

@sciencematters: Congrats for taking a chance on LOVE! I talk with friends who are bitter and have given up on finding someone to love who will be decent, giving and love them back. It is risky to put your emotions into words and tell that special someone how they make you feel and ask them what they want in their lives! However, being a realistic person who believes in basic goodness of others, I took many risks with my heart and I’m glad I did. In hindsight of course I admit I had some disappointment along the way, but learned from mistakes in judgement.
We only live once! We have so much to enjoy in this life - share your happy side to others and invite them to share your days. Yes, I hear you thinking there are “takers and deceivers” out in the world… we must take care to protect ourselves and distance ourselves from those that want to take advantage. There is always the good, bad & ugly; however, I choose to trust my intuitions and risk encouraging only meaningful relationships.
Living lonely lives wastes precious time when we could share the joy of life. I trust you to make the best decisions for your future! I’m sure there will be comments, so I’m open to your views…

@raebaby
YOU are awesome! What an inspiration for everyone who reads your post. Thank you!! It gives me great hope in my own future.

I stood by my husband with his illness, because we had been married so long (58 years)and he had been a good man. Once he got sick he was very hard to live with and take care of. Any woman who marries a man a lot older than her (mine was my age and we married at 18 and 20) had better look forward to taking care of him. I thought I would have a stroke ,it was so hard.

@raebaby My husband and I both ill but still have sense of humour but spending far too much time together! 2nd marriage for me age 37 2 children, then, and he was 28.... 45 yrs together now. When we met I was deeply concerned about the far distant future and I would be a pensioner older than him.. which happened of course: but he has been supportive of me and I of him and also he has as many illnesses: Sometimes after bickering on and off during the day we look at each other and say: we deserve each other! But we will always, always love each other ... just sometimes we dont like each other! 🙂

@lacy2 I think that is wonderful! As long as you have a happy marriage and neither partner develops dementia, you are lucky indeed! What ever traits you don't like in each other grow large with dementia.

@raebaby I’m now where you were. I had breast cancer and have reason to be concerned about recurrence. My husband has had Parkinson’s for about 10 years and is declining. I attend a PD support group but that’s not enough. Like you, I feel like I may have a stroke-so much pressure!

@raebaby ....thanks, the thing is "some" of the things that irritate us about each other, we both do ! Havent figured that one out yet! He i son 15 meds a day, smokes and has his wine ever day I dont know how he is still walking around... never complains as I do .,. enough for both of us !