Happiness: A One Week Journey

Great advice Jim!
 

@misdeejon42

Dottie, I know too well how depression and other illnesses work together. I'm being treated for a very long list of things. Idiopathic peripheral neuropathy, arthritis, back pain, peptic ulcers, some kind of heart problem, double vision, esophageal dysmotility, abdominal issues are the main things. I'm going to get a spinal cord stimulator implant in June, which should relieve the burning pain in my feet. I hope.

Days with bad pain will coincide with deeper depression. At least, that's how it works with me.

Jim

@hope33250, Teresa, i missed it. Ive been on Facebook, and other places, trying to advocate for animals. Its a subject near and dear to my heart. Once a year on June 21, a province in China gathers up as many dogs and cats as they can. They are put in cages, tortured, killed, and eaten. They say that the fear and torture makes the meat more tender. Thousands of people have tried to put a stop to it, but this horrible pastime may be too finely ingrained. Im told we have caused a temporary ban, but i wont hold my breath.

The last couple of days have been pretty hard for me. No special reason for me, unless its the death of my first husband and my kids devastation. My daughter cant forgive her aunts and uncles for not calling her. And im just po'd at Stan for once again not doing the right thing where his kids are concerned. Plus, he left no life insurance policy. Just punctuates his lack of regard for them, and they needed the money so bad.

Also, my daughter told me that sometimes she hates me. How would you react to that? I cried silently.

Teresa, i hope everyone is safe and well, and i will talk again later.
Love to all, Diane

Jim I know how you feel, I have other things wrong with me, but you know life goes on, we hope that someday we will wake up with no pain, and we can start our life again, their are days I wish god would take me, but he won't I still have things to do for him here on earth, so I have to go on, I got a puppy about 3 weeks ago and he has helped me through , now I have him to take care of and I stop thinking about what is wrong with me. I love him, I saw him online and new that he needed me, I have looked at dogs for months and never did anything to get them, well when I saw him I called the rescue and said I want him, mind you they close at 4pm everyday and it was 3:30 pm and you know what they waited for me, I feel in love at first sight, he has been so good, so mabe you should look into getting a pet, by the way how old are you? dottie

Good Saturday morning!! Your words are so powerful they just seemed to wrap up and jump off the page like a huge heavy boulder. You are obviously so full of love and compassion. That can be the greatest advantage in life but also our most challenging in dealing with others who may not enjoy those advantages.
A few years back I did hypnotherapy that focused on "my behavior" towards some injustices I was dealing with. I know this therapy has made life enjoyable and has given me peace time and time again. If we focus on others and their reactions it is perpetual. Like a dog chasing it's own tail. When I became intimately aware and responsible for my own behaviors and reactions I regained my power in life.
Start with simple ideas, acknowledge others words and behaviors with loving words from your heart and soul level. If we constantly react we 'leave'ourselves and it is hard to find that "me" again, hope that makes sense?
Your daughter is grieving in a different space emotionally than you are. She doesn't hate you, she hates circumstances. Stay at that soul level when listening to her, give your entire self to just be a listener and hug when needed. Fix a nice dinner or snack, help her relax to take a nap or a quiet walk together. Always moving forward not backwards. Life can be so hard at times, only worry about your own behaviors and it can and will be better. Not that you/we all are doing anything wrong it just helps put things in perspective at a difficult moment. Some words are better said in a different time frame so choose wisely. I read not long ago that we are required to love our children, not the other way around. I silently cry many times when my boys get snippy. But I also know that they are trusting me to view them in a deep emotional time, knowing that I will never dishonor their place in my life and heart. Their every word is safe with me, a Mother is regarded differently from any other human in a child's life. Anger means hate sometimes and that is the word sometimes used, think of it as a deep cry for help and listen with those amazing motherly ears. We are not promised anything as parents, we are always expected to fix things, that is our challenge and our greatest blessing. Know that these words are only to help and not to hurt, being at peace begins with controlling our own actions and reactions. If this is not achieved then suffering takes it's mighty hold. Be well.

@misdeejon42 How nice that you got a puppy, it sounds like you and the puppy are good for each other! Teresa

Thank yogood luck and hope this year is good to you. dottieu very good advise, it sounds like you have life by the tail,

@jimhd Hi Jim: Is your implant still helping to control your pain? As I recall, it will be a while before the final step is taken. Take care. Teresa

It is good Saturday morning! Happy Ramadan! Happiness a One Week Journey is what leading us to here. I see happiness determined in general guidelines and developed through communications with others. Each group whatever that group small or big, professional or unprofessional is determining the type of happiness that create satisfaction of their needs. And as people are different in their cultures and languages, so listening and changing become the best part in happiness. Words in summary could be “communicate with others by empowering the main goals that end up in sending good messages and effective understanding”.

I like this meaning as you stated here (Anger means hate sometimes and that is the word sometimes used, think of it as a deep cry for help and listen with those amazing motherly ears). I see anger as a way of not understanding each other, we should understand each other. You see the child when become angry because s/he wants to tell his mom or dad that s/he does not understand her/him. Kids do not learn how others in society could be good or bad comparable to their values except if parents teach them. If they have learn that all people are good, and that bad things are not existed they will get angry quickly.