Ashamed: I think about (and plan for) dying. Do you?

Posted by olgamarie @olgamarie, Feb 7, 2021

Hi, did anyone, after there cancer and COPD diagnosis start to think about dying? After almost four years, I still do, all the time. Planning my funeral, how to leave my children, how it will be to be in a coffin. Bizarre, I know.

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Colleen Young, Connect Director | @colleenyoung | 3 days ago

In reply to @key54 "I came back today to share that at times out of the blue I get gut..." + (show)

@key54, I think it is normal to be blind-sided by unexpected emotions when dealing with a serious diagnsosis. Are you living with cancer? How do you manage the gut-wrenching fear and anxiety when it comes up?

Colleen Young, Connect Director | @colleenyoung | 1 day ago

In reply to @andermoss "I think this is normal. Especially if you are a “planner” in life. My counselor called..." + (show)

@andermoss, the "cancer funnel" - that paints a clear picture. Good phrase. I agree with everything you said. Are you also living with cancer? What type?

andermoss | @andermoss | 1 day ago

In reply to @colleenyoung "@andermoss, the "cancer funnel" - that paints a clear picture. Good phrase. I agree with everything..." + (show)

@colleenyoung
Yes I have been dealing w stage V adenocarcinoma NSCLC w mets to the brain. Tagrisso since Jan 2024 but no longer working. Elected no chemo so dr says I have about 6 months. My cancer funnel changed to death funnel. I have my faith and I am good w whats happening.

kausmus | @kausmus | 23 hours ago

In reply to @ta52 "I don't spend time planning my funeral; I spend time planning how my wife and I..." + (show)

@ta52 What a great outlook.

kausmus | @kausmus | 23 hours ago

Yes I do think about dying it seems to cross my mind at least once a day. I have my affairs in order. My spouse know all the detail which helps me cope.