@contentandwell, Sorry. Not at all familiar with those meds, so can't offer any experience. Rosemary

@mklapperich I offer you my solution for people that want you to eat and drink. I used this quite a bit with alcohol. Get a small portion of something you are willing to eat a bite of, and half fill a cup or glass of something you are willing to taste. Hold on to that and lick or tine-taste the food and fake sip the drink while visiting. After a while you can dump your plate when other people start to dump theirs. It's part of my fake it until you make it life motto. lol

@contentandwell, I hope you can relax and enjoy yourself! I'll bet that you are always a gracious hostess - whether you do or do not serve lots of goodies. Has it occurred to you that daughter's fiancé's mom might be watching what she is eating, too?

Did your daughter find a dress yet?
Rosemary

@2100panc - EXCELLENT advice! I've heard many ideas on this subject but this is the best. Now, to remember it when I need it. I have to admit I have a guilty pleasure telling people I can't drink alcohol due to kidney failures. Sometimes it opens the door to educate people about living kidney donors and of course I always hope that can turn into someone considering being a donor for me.

@contentandwell Dilaudid and tramadol are pretty heavy duty. I remember being on dilaudid and did not like it at all. I don't remember ever being on tramadol, but doubt I would like that much either. I have been using acetaminophen only for pain relief for decades while trying to save my kidneys. It has been really tough, but I've been able to make it through. I also use yoga and medication on a regular basis.

@lcamino Thank you! I have never liked alcohol or its effects. I like your idea about opening donor discussions by refusing alcohol. I usually choose black coffee, and was surprised a few nights ago that the only offerings were coke, diet coke, punch, sparkling water and water. I was able to restrain myself from preaching, just barely. lol

@2011panc thank you for a new solution to an old and uncomfortable social situation. That was great. I laughed so hard. I will use that advice for sure. That is most helpful. I love it! And it will work.

@rosemarya I presume you were on some narcotic pain relievers. If so, did you have to ween off? I think dilaudid (hydromophone) is similar to OxyContin.
JK

@rosemarya that never occurred to me that my daughter’s future mother in law might be watching, I doubt that everyone who will be here is though.
My daughter did find a dress. It was delivered here on Wednesday. She loves it. It actually came with a stain on the bodice but she was able to get it mostly out. She called the place she got it from and they gave her a big discount. The dress is cream colored with a pale blue top, very simple. I’m just glad that she is happy with it, that’s what matters.
She also got a pretty, full, taffeta skirt for the reception in two weeks. No blouse yet but I do like the skirt.
I’m supposed to speak tomorrow but so far I only have a reading I am going to do, Khalil Gibran on marriage. It’s the same reading that was done st our marriage. She is turning out to be more sentimental than I ever thought she was.
JK

@2011panc thanks. As I have mentioned, Tylenol is the only OTC I can use, and only 2000 mg a day so that really doesn’t cut it.
I would really like to learn to meditate. I think that would be good for me when I am stressed.
JK