Don't Let Grief Define Your Life

Posted by georgescraftjr @georgescraftjr, Dec 3, 2025

I am new to this support group.

I have been on the verge of physically losing my 83-year old husband, who suffers from chronic pain, Alzheimer's, Lewy Body dementia, vascular dementia and Parkinson's. (He was in hospice, went off hospice, and might soon have to go back on it.) I try not to let his pain (and my own physical pain) or my grief for the loss of his old self and our former life define this last chapter of our life.

I am profoundly sorry for all of you who have suffered the loss of someone dear to you, and my hope is that grief does not define who you are and who I will be should my husband predecease me.

I found this video clip inspirational, and I hope you will be positively affected by it, too:

For those of you who are not familiar with the song, the lyrics can be found on this link:

https://www.bing.com/search

All my prayers,
George's Wife

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georgescraftjr | @georgescraftjr | Dec 3, 2025

Sorry for the typo in the caption. (I typed my post through tears--and without wearing my reading glasses.)

George's Wife

rivermaya34 | @rivermaya34 | Dec 4, 2025

@georgescraftjr My whole heart goes out to you ... :'( Thank you for thinking of others during your very difficult time of grief - that alone takes a mighty level of strength, for which I have much respect and admiration for. Sending hugs your way.

Colleen Young, Connect Director | @colleenyoung | Dec 15, 2025

@georgescraftjr, the grief you are experiencing has a name. It is called anticipatory grief. You may find these discussions helpful to connect with others who understand
- Grief support: Anyone experiencing anticipatory grief?https://connect.mayoclinic.org/discussion/grief-support/
- Grief: name it to tame it https://connect.mayoclinic.org/discussion/grief-name-it-to-tame-it/

How are you doing today?

georgescraftjr | @georgescraftjr | Dec 15, 2025

Thanks for your concern, Colleen. I am familiar with anticipatory grief. (My older brother's grandson got osteo-sarcoma when he was four-years old. Even though the grandson is still alive, his propects are not good. My poor brother has been physically and emotionally ill with worry and grief.)

I am in too much physical pain today to grieve for my husband, who has been rather trying. Tomorrow will be a new day--another day the good Lord would have made.

Hugs,
George's Wife