Inoperable Meningioma: not feeling support by my partner

When I am stressed out, I go to a Catholic Church and sit in a pew alone in the back and relax. Very quiet inside unless there are services going on. A good place to gather your thoughts and gain a sense of calm. It could be any church where the doors are unlocked.

thanks for sharing , and welcome to the group. me well that's another matter all together. what it sound like is the little green monster at work. i don't have that problem because i am alone way to much of the time . still think of things to do but at the same time wish my wife were still alive and here now so i could ask her some questions. had a brain tumor removed last year and still healing. doc said it could take a year or the rest of my life to heal. i just know that I'm lonely and so i get on here and try to help as many people as i can solve or help understand or just a happy thought to get through the day. helps them and helps me. this Friday is my birthday and glad i have a good chance of waking up and seeing the day come in new. hope the rest of your day goes great.

@randallshields56

Randall - Happy Birthday! Do something tomorrow to celebrate your birthday! God put you on this earth for a reason and you have to figure it out! Take a walk, meditate in a church sanctuary, go to an animal shelter and volunteer, go hold new borns in your local hospital, so many things. So get off the internet and start moving. Ask a friend to go with you. Anything, just GO! Dolly

Beaver moon tonight. Worth checking on it. Thank you for the hug,
sending you good vibrations and hugs 🤗

@dollyjaneprenzel
Have a caregiver, were also in the boonies, thank you for the birthday wishes. Will probably get in a walk sometime, tomorrow is laundry and exercises. Caregiver will leave out around 330 pm then I won't see her again till next week.

Hello,
Driving everyday in heavy traffic is taxing even without the effects of radiation treatment and steroids. I had to be on steroids to control brain swelling after my craniotomy, and they caused my blood sugar to spike to the point of requiring insulin to control it. Have you had your blood sugar checked recently? Do you have anyone aside from that a-hole of a husband that can help you get to the appointments? it sounds like he is having a definite negative impact on your healing. Is there anyone you can talk to, a friend, counselor, priest? ‘Nuff said about that. I’ve preached this before, but exercise can be a big help. Walk, bike, go to the gym, take a yoga class. Exercise is a stress reliever. Good luck, hope that tumor is shrinking.

@randallshields56 going out with family for dinner. have a blessed evening.

@carolinalynn, the situation with your husband is a really hard one to untangle. It was wise of you to ask if his actions were actually him being scared. Sometimes the people who are closest to us react in unexpected ways when we become sick, especially with something scary and unknown to them like a brain tumor. It sounds like he is scared for the future.

Are you usually the person who takes care of everyone in the family? Is his being suspicious of you or worried about himself new behavior for him?

I sure can relate to how you feel, when the support from your partner, is not there, when you need it the most! When I became ill, with two possibly life-threatening chronic conditions, my partner, who has had serious heart ailments, herself, diabetes etc. was not very supportive at all, even though I was always very supportive of her, when she was very ill! I need her support, not criticism, just like you need your partner’s support, not criticism! I don’t know how to fix the problem! It’s been going on now for a few years, and is getting worse, not better! Confronting her, to discuss the issue, makes it even worse. So now, I’ve turned to my daughter and other family members, who do give me a measure of emotional support! Hang in there!

@randallshields56 turned out to be a blessed evening and thank you for saying have a blessed day.