@chantelle

I am so sorry you are facing this heart wrenching challenge! Would it work at all to first let him know how much you appreciate his years of taking care of the finances for you both, but then explaining that since you are so much younger than he, it’s conceivable that at some point you will need take care of things for yourself, and you would rather start now while he can teach you everything? That way he still feels some control, but you are involved to catch mistakes and gently take over? You could let him know that this is important to your future and that you know he loves you so much and will want you to feel capable and secure……

This is difficult and I pray it works out with ease for you!