So sorry for what you are going through. I think I was in denial when my husband started his decline. He was our financial person and did very well until dementia slowly worked its way into our lives. I realized what was going on when he tried doing our taxes and just kept shuffling papers around. I slowly took over and now I have full responsibility of everything. I tell him what I am doing and how much he has in his account. I make him sign checks that are coming out of his account so he feels that he some what in control. Good luck. This is one thing I wished I started earlier.