Depressed over the over use of doctors and procedures..approaching 80

Apparently I am what is called a superager. At age 91 I am just fine. I found this article on the Internet. Scientists have been studying people like me for 25 years and apparently our brains are different. At age 87 I had a right hip replacement as I had worn it out. They do not keep you in the hospital anymore, which is where you should be. They shipped me off to a hellhole, where there was no one who really took care of me. Because I was not able to get out of bed myself, how was I supposed to go to the bathroom? They didn't care. I just had to go and lie in my mess until finally someone would come hours later and chastise me for getting myself messy, the bed, etc. It meant they finally had to do some work. Additionally they never gave me a shower or bed bath. Evidently personal hygiene was not high on their list of taking care of patients. Had to spend 3 weeks there. It was awful.

This is just shocking to read, I remember when the pandemic started Canada (where I live) really abandoned the seniors in assisted living, there were stories about the staff removing the door knobs so they were trapped, it sounded like a horror story. I’m truly sorry that this happened to you, it’s just so heartbreaking that these things happen in our world.

thanks... I am so depressed. Just fell asleep with my teeth and couldn't find the lower plate. I was ready to call THE ER again after three days in three different hospitals for the HEART ATTACK and two stents and some calcification removed. FOUND THEM UNDER MY BED. WHY DO I FEEL SO NUTS?????? I will try the MAYO support group...THANKS AGAIN.

JUST READ TO FIND THE SUPPORT GROUP. THANKS NEW FRIENDS MAYBE WE ALL CAN HELP EACH OTHER.>>>@margaretob

I am Margaret and would like to keep in touch...I am 81 and just got two stents and some calcification removed.. how do you stay so positive. I am always angry at medical issues and would like to help be more positive. YOU SOUND GREAT FOR 88...better..

THANKS I AM SENDING YOU A LETTER OF GRATITUDE PLEASE KEEP IN TOUCH...@margaretob

@rosebookay I agree with you. The money making medical establishment is disgraceful.

@margaretob
Hello Margaret,
First of all I am 91, not 88. Fortunately for me I really do not have medical issues. When I was 87 I had to have a hip replacement as I had worn it out. I had a wonderful surgeon. What angered me was where they shipped me after the surgery. I should have been kept in the hospital where trained personnel could have looked after me. But no they put you in these hellholes and you just rot there. I never had a shower or even a bed bath for 3 weeks. I was not able to get out of bed and walk due to my surgery and no one ever checked in to see if I needed a bathroom. Without being too graphic, you can guess what happened. Then they were mad at me because I had to be cleaned up and the bedding changed, etc. That's what makes me mad. I cannot tell you why or how I have made it to this great age. Eating well? Exercising? Maybe both. But life is not worth living without your soul mate. We were together for 62 years. It has been four years since he died and not a day goes by that I still do not cry for him. I did have grief therapy. But at this point I don't care if I live or die. I only know that I will never harm myself. That is the coward's way. Life has taught me to be strong. That could also be a factor. In any event, I wish you well going forward.

It sometimes feels like there’s no end to all the inhumane acts that are happening in this world, most of us feel helpless and don’t know what to do about it. I read stories that are so sad and shocking too, you don’t know where to begin with what to say or how you can help someone else with their feelings, it’s all too frustrating to say the least.

You are amazing and a tribute to aging. I hope and wish you the very best....