driver's license

Posted by lilyann @lilyann, Oct 21 5:25pm

lilyann here,
well, thought i was aging well until a notice came in the mail its time to renew my license. almost 83 with macular degeneration with wavy lines and right eye leaking. so kinda nervous whether i would pass the eye exam or not. contacted the eye dr. who just seen me and he said i would being my numbers what they were when i was last there. just make sure i wear my glasses and "blink" often. thing is: i haven't driven a car in years......., i have vertigo, degenerative disks in my neck, hard to turn as well as the 2 surgeries to remove my thyroid gland. so i ask everyone should i get them or forget about it. my cousin in ariz. says to get them for identification. well, i already have my funeral plans set up and all. so its like i doubt i will be here for another 8 years and to pay $38. hmmm, so let me know what all of you think. i don't even feel like going to the dr. or grocery store. can't wear a hat for my balding head and of course i will have to take off my mask which is hiding my missing teeth. so again, what do you say. go for it or forget about it. take care everyone.

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Profile picture for thisismarilynb @thisismarilynb

I am 91 years old and just renewed my driver's license. But I had a very unusual experience with the Clerk. The first time I came she said my eye exam (which was on a DMV form prepared by my optometrist) clearly showed that I did not have enough eyesight to drive. She was wrong but there was nothing I could do. I went to my optometrist's office and told her what happened. She redid the form and expressly put on it the fact that I did not need glasses to drive and was okay to drive at night. Went back again. Same clerk. She took my documentation and told me to take a seat and wait for my name to be called. Turned out this was a direct lie. She was supposed to give me a number and enter it in the computer. Thankfully I had a friend with me. After about 30 minutes my friend got up and walked by the desk with all the testing clerks. She found one who was not busy and told him what was happening to me. He immediately called over a supervisor and that clerk disappeared from her desk. He gave my friend a number for me, entered it and told her I was now in the system. It did not take long for my number to be called. I went to the appropriate desk, had my vision tested by them and that was it. Then went to get photographed and was told that I would receive my new license in 3-4 weeks. In actuality I received it in 10 days. In spite of my great age, I am healthy. I do not have diseases which require me to take different medications. I do not have dementia. I am able to live independently and take care of myself. And I know very well how to drive the freeways. So in my case it was some vindictive clerk. Hope none of you ever have that happen to you.

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@thisismarilynb
hi marilyn, lilyann here, so glad to hear from you.
what a story. that is terrible how you were treated. you are truly blessed indeed. so glad you had a friend with you. i did go today and i got my license as i found out it cost just the same amount as a state ID card. i was going to wait till next month. oh well, now, i will sleep better and love all the people that have responded to me about my plight of worry. i can't believe it.......we were suppose to do something else and got all dressed to go and then something cancelled that out so hubby said well, lets go pay the house taxes and truck taxes and get your license. i'm so grateful to hear from you. stay strong and blessed.

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@slarson14
I believe she was when the Supervisor was apprised of what happened to me. She disappeared and another clerk took her place. I asked about filing a complaint, but that would have involved a lot of paperwork which I was not inclined to do.
So far all is okay with me but at this point I do not buy green bananas.

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@thisismarilynb

lilyann here, i had a person like that at the lab. so i do hope she will be trained in how to treat people, no matter the age. i don't buy green bananas either. lol

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Profile picture for gloaming @gloaming

My dad is stooped, uses a walker, and is mostly through his 95th year. He passed his driver's test las March on his birth month. Can happen to the best of us. However, there is more to driving than mere vision. There is the all-important ability to quickly assess a situation and to react as quickly..................AND...................appropriately. My dad has had to small fender benders in the past five years, one of which was clearly a result of momentary confusion. He braked during a green light when he was first in line and the pickup behind, who was too quick to accelerate, crashed into us.

With the conditions the originator states, I would not place myself in the position of having to be denied the license. As many others have responded, you can get a state-issued ID that is perfectly legal and acceptable which does not involve driving.

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@gloaming lilyann here, i did go today. did pass and i have no intention of driving. thing is, i researched how much an ID cost and it was the same price, so i thought.........well, just give it a try and if not......really nothing lossed. i do know my limits and i wouldn't want to hurt anyone out there on the road. i am so happy to hear what everyone has to say and been so helpful and kind and funny. laughter is the best medicine. take care and God bless everyone.

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Profile picture for slarson14 @slarson14

As many have proven: all you have to do is drive slower. lol. My 88 yo neighbor got a ticket for driving too slow.

My aunts, who lived next to each other until they died at nearly 100 and both drove until they had their first accident at 94 and 92 respectively.

They were BOTH backing out of their driveways - the driveways were parallell and 3-5 feet apart - and they backed into each other - both had drifted - one left and one right - out of their respective driveways lololol.

And what do TWO sisters do? They both blame each other....lololol.

Awesome family story told over the last 40 years....

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@slarson14
lilyann here, what a fantastic story, thank you for sharing it. wow, time flys for sure. wishing you the best.

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Profile picture for gloaming @gloaming

My dad is stooped, uses a walker, and is mostly through his 95th year. He passed his driver's test las March on his birth month. Can happen to the best of us. However, there is more to driving than mere vision. There is the all-important ability to quickly assess a situation and to react as quickly..................AND...................appropriately. My dad has had to small fender benders in the past five years, one of which was clearly a result of momentary confusion. He braked during a green light when he was first in line and the pickup behind, who was too quick to accelerate, crashed into us.

With the conditions the originator states, I would not place myself in the position of having to be denied the license. As many others have responded, you can get a state-issued ID that is perfectly legal and acceptable which does not involve driving.

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@gloaming lilyann here, your dad sounds like he was a strong man with determination. i think all of us have those senior moments. i thank you for sharing your story and helping me reach a solution to my worriesome problem. i did go and pass today and was happy to get it over with instead of waiting till closer till my b/d in dec. that was part of the worriment to be denied and then that would even be more pressing. like not passing a test in school. i just felt some kind of power this morning however, i was still not planning on going today, but ended up paying some important bills at the courthouse......so...just did it and maybe i will rest better tonight. stay strong and blessed.

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Profile picture for dgjestson @dgjestson

You clearly would be a hazardous driver if you passed the exam, and on that basis alone, you should not participate. That means you would have to produce a birth certificate or passport to vote I think.

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@dgjestson
lilyann here, thank you and i agree. i promise you i won't be driving but i did pass the test. i do know my limits. thank you for your reply. stay strong and blessed

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Profile picture for slarson14 @slarson14

As many have proven: all you have to do is drive slower. lol. My 88 yo neighbor got a ticket for driving too slow.

My aunts, who lived next to each other until they died at nearly 100 and both drove until they had their first accident at 94 and 92 respectively.

They were BOTH backing out of their driveways - the driveways were parallell and 3-5 feet apart - and they backed into each other - both had drifted - one left and one right - out of their respective driveways lololol.

And what do TWO sisters do? They both blame each other....lololol.

Awesome family story told over the last 40 years....

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Profile picture for Miriam, Volunteer Mentor @mir123

You can get a a state-issued non-driver ID card and not have to pass any test. I gather you can get them at the dmv. It is a good idea to have an ID card which you might need at the bank or in other situations. It will cost something but shouldn't be stressful to get. If it was me I'd give up on the driver's license for all the reasons you mention but get this just to have an official ID if needed. Might that work for you?

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@mir123
I totally agree about the state ID. As far as the picture goes you don’t have to smile or show your teeth. I will be 82 Nov 11, I live in Texas and just got my new drivers license two days ago. I’m still laughing because no one knows the day nor the hour! Enjoy every minute you have, God bless you!!!

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@mir123
I totally agree about the state ID. As far as the picture goes you don’t have to smile or show your teeth. I will be 82 Nov 11, I live in Texas and just got my new drivers license two days ago. I’m still laughing because no one knows the day nor the hour! Enjoy every minute you have, God bless you!!!

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@captboat Thanks for the response--I got a big smile from it (no teeth showing!).

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@slarson14
I believe she was when the Supervisor was apprised of what happened to me. She disappeared and another clerk took her place. I asked about filing a complaint, but that would have involved a lot of paperwork which I was not inclined to do.
So far all is okay with me but at this point I do not buy green bananas.

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@thisismarilynb I don’t understand the part about not buying green bananas …

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