@colleenyoung I’m a caregiver for my almost 86 year old husband with Parkinson’s and dementia. I’m a young 84 but 5 feet tall and weigh 100 pounds. For 2 years, I’ve taken care of my husband myself. At that time, his symptoms were pretty mild but he did have a few unmanageable incidents. Ultimately, I could not manage him and after 2 serious incidents where I had to call 911, as of August 12, 2025, I placed him in a memory care residence. His symptoms are primarily cognitive. I am just coming out of a terrifying and traumatizing nightmare of activity and emotions related to his swift decline. At the same time as I was grieving the loss of him and suddenly living alone, I had to get control of our assets from someone who had been in charge of it all and could not tell me anything about anything due to his cognitive loss. Things have mostly settled down now. My agonizing over whether I made the right decision about putting him in a residence when every day he was desperately pleading, threatening, or trying to leave is mainly over. He’s now more adjusted to his situation although he really hadn’t grasped his condition and still thinks it will be over one day and he’ll come home. He has times when he’s lucid and my heart sings only to be broken again when he regresses. At the age of 84, I am faced with making a new life. I tried the caregiver’s group once before but couldn’t face being in it. I’m not in denial but I still don’t know if I want to focus like this.