@kartwk hugs to you! I know how frustrating it is right now but later these will become stories we can laugh about. Our loved ones will be in and out, so unfortunately you will need to verify any action you deem important. One of my families favorites was when my mother, bless her heart, told me she had gotten a roast out of the freezer for me to cook. I searched high and low, and eventually found it. 😂🤣. In the canned goods pantry. Behind some other stuff. Let’s just say it was quite thawed and beginning to smell😆. “Mom, when did you get this out of the freezer?” She looks up puzzled “oh, a couple days ago, can you cook it for tonight?” I think not🤣😂, so I made her chicken and dumplings from scratch- her favorite meal.
Also- you need to get a new will made, and appoint someone else as executor, and not tell the daughter (or anyone that would inform her) since she has made her position abundantly clear. I know there is always more to these stories. Unless there are extenuating circumstances we do not owe those who treat us poorly everything we have worked for. There are many charities that could use some help.
In many areas there are senior centers that may be able to advise you of services available to you. Sometimes they can link you up with legal advisors. If you can drive and feel it’s safe you can go get away for a bit. If H cannot be left alone senior centers sometimes have weekly events that he can attend to engage him, while you get a bit of respite.
I am glad you joined this caregiver’s group, because we have all been there. We all need a place to vent and ask for suggestions! 🫂