@deniae You don’t own anyone anything! Yes, you are doing a massive job and they don’t have to. . . . Yet. There is a possible solution, but it depends on you. Answer questions such as “how are you today?” With a simple “I’m OK” and then change the subject quickly. Ask if they could do simple favor or chore for you, like stopping at the library or grocery for a single item. Then, when they bring the item to your house, thank them, thank them, thank them! Leave all your problems at the back door! This could change their attitude and yours. My sister always called this ‘talking to the cats!’
Do you think it’s worth a try? Let me know!