Comforting words needed

Posted by ancl123 @ancl123, Oct 4 6:13am

Hello! I am a 47 year old mom of 4 kids. When my last daughter was born I went on lexapro due to very upsetting insomnia, anxiety and depression postpartum. I had this issue of insomnia and anxiety before my first was born as well but thankfully I was ok for many years while my kids were little and was on no meds. I was prescribed lexapro after my last daughter born, rough startup but eventually It overall worked for 8 years at 10mg. I would still have flare ups of insomnia which I wasn’t crazy about occasionally still once or twice a month. I slowly weaned to 5 went off and had no issues other then some crying spells. 4 months have gone by. I went off because I didn’t want to be on meds longer and felt overall better and was hoping to loose some stuck weight. I did loose my dad in February and have a very stressful issue with my 16 year old behaviorally so perhaps wasn’t best decision.

2 weeks ago I started to spiral with depression and anxiety I was waking up at 5am often I think brought on by stress. Decided to go back on 5mg lexapro a week ago. My insomnia got much worse after trying to restart 5mg lexapro I wake up at 1:30 and can’t go back to bed. Freaked me out and stopped it. My new symptom is panic attacks which I didn’t have in the past where adrenaline rushes through my
Body multiple times a day. I am now trying tryptophan, theanine, valerian, and cbd and thc gummies is my next option.the last 3 nights I have slept 3- 4 hrs last night I popped a Xanax because woke up after one hr and couldn’t go back to bed. Not sure what
To do. I also am getting to premenopausal age so perhaps some of this factors in. I’m thinking this is a relapse and will need meds for life 😭

Has anyone restarted lexapro or there drugs and had a success story? Scared to go through side effects startup and have to switch meds. Anyone here on meds for life?
Thank you in advance 😊

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Here are my thoughts. Please go to your family doctor and get some blood work done to see if there is an organic cause of your panic attacks. I say that because it is a new symptom for you. Also, you need to see a female doctor who can deal with your peri- menopausal symptoms. Lastly, at 47 your melatonin levels have dropped. It regulates your sleep cycle and also helps in preventing dementia, and, it is thought, some cancers. I started out with 1mg. one hour before bedtime and now take 3 mg. Cleveland clinic has helpful information on melatonin and sleep disorders. I have gone through very stressful times that affected my sleep. But I have also dealt with illnesses that also affected my sleep until I was properly diagnosed. Two conditions, at the same time, or one illness, coupled with a stressful situation are all possibilities. I think you need to get some medical testing, certainly take a small amount of melatonin from now on, ( and raise the level by a few milligrams to see if that helps ). And please talk to a good therapist. I think that this is a multi- faceted problem. I have gone through something similar.

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I’ve had chronic insomnia since age 13. Was raised in an abusive family - mostly by my father - which caused anxiety, depression and PTSD. I didn’t seek medical help until I got out of the situation, as being awake at night helped keep me safe ( somewhat). Yes, sexual abuse was part of the situation. Once out on my own and working, the insomnia continued, and I eventually sought help. You name the med, sleep school and psychiatric therapy I’ve tried it all. Mirtazapine and Trazodone are part of my daily meds, they knock me out, but don’t keep me asleep. Was still waking every night between 1 to 2:30 AM, unable to get back to sleep. I was searching online for a natural sleep remedy and found a recommendation to try NUMO sleep gummies. At this point I figured why not try it. After 2 nights of taking it I was able to start several nights in a row of sleeping through the night. I will still wake up approximately 1 or 2 nights per week, but it is so much better. My husband is very relieved, because low sleep makes me very irritable. I know it won’t work for everyone, but what do you have to lose. I order mine on Amazon ( for the free shipping), but you can get it right from the company website. I hope it helps. I take it along with my prescribed meds, and cleared it with my doctor first. I will be on prescription medication for the rest of my life, to deal with my psychological issues. Thanks Dad.

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@mbixler could be perimenopause. HRT could help

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I am 70 years old, so not perimenopause. Plus I have a clotting disorder, so HRT is out, as it increases risk of clots. I thank you for the thoughts, but I’m a medical oddity, with 26 health issues - some autoimmune. Doctors have been struggling to treat me safely for my whole life. Truly a lemon since birth, which didn’t help with my parent’s abuse. Seems that having a kid with numerous medical issues causes a lot of anger.

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I didn't taken lexapro, but tamoxifen I took for 10 weeks. I have been on amitriptyline for 40 years. Take 25 mg at bedtime to keep Chronic Fatigue Syndrome away. It isn't addictive. I know because when in my 20s I took same med for depression. After 8 years I stopped cold turkey with no problem at all and stayed off for many years. Until 40 years ago I got CFS. Restarted the med and it got my CFS under control. I will keep taking it until I die. It's an old drug, but effective drug. By the way, I'm old, in case you haven't figured it out.

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@ancl123
Per my Mayo medication psychiatrist specialist when you go on Lexapro it is for life. It brings you back to a normal state. It can be raised up if needed but I was told would be on if for life.

You mentioned sleeping problems. Have your doctors mentioned sleep aids like Trazadone. It worked for me. It kind of stops your brain from jumping from one thought to another. There also many other medication out there that can help.

Are you working with your doctors before coming off medications or going back on them?

You mentioned stress and anxiety. How is your lifestyle? Do you enjoy any type of exercise? After checking with your doctors exercise you (the ones you smile while doing) can help remove stress and anxiety and release endorphins that trigger feelings of well being (comes from my medical doctors).

Don't like any type of exercise (I do 5 days a week of water aerobics) how about a hobby? Hobbies also help you relax and enjoy an activity with same release of endorphins.

Talk to your doctors. Stress, anxiety, cause a release of adrenaline. That is the fight or flight hormone. If you don't do something like exercise or hobby to release build up it can cause a anxiety/panic attack as body had to release the adrenline.

Hope this helps. But you need to work with your doctors when stopping or starting medications.

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@jc76
Hello! I exercise atleast one hr each day.

I didn’t talk to the Dr when coming off it was very slow ween. but sure am now going to going back on.

I have taken Remeron and trazadone before but don’t like to every night. I really want a medicine that will take care of the insomnia anxiety so then I don’t need a sedative at night. The lexapro I would take at night once I got up to 10mg.

Thank you 😊 I need to start thinking that when I was having babies I was so scared of meds. Now that I’m past that point I need to relax about that. It’s a challenge for me.

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@ancl123
I have been off and on anxiety/depression medication since my 20s and now in my 50s. Hormone changes, especially with pregnancy/postpartum/peri-menopause and menopause increased my symptoms and made my panic attacks worse.

You have some stress and loss added to your anxiety/depression which is affecting sleep. Are you working with a psychiatrist to help you manage your medications?

Don’t worry about how long you are on medications. Make sure you are getting the treatment needed to help you sleep and manage your day to day life as best as possible.

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@dlydailyhope

I have psychiatrist appointment Thursday. I agree about the hormones they are brutal.

Thank you for your kind words!

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Here are my thoughts. Please go to your family doctor and get some blood work done to see if there is an organic cause of your panic attacks. I say that because it is a new symptom for you. Also, you need to see a female doctor who can deal with your peri- menopausal symptoms. Lastly, at 47 your melatonin levels have dropped. It regulates your sleep cycle and also helps in preventing dementia, and, it is thought, some cancers. I started out with 1mg. one hour before bedtime and now take 3 mg. Cleveland clinic has helpful information on melatonin and sleep disorders. I have gone through very stressful times that affected my sleep. But I have also dealt with illnesses that also affected my sleep until I was properly diagnosed. Two conditions, at the same time, or one illness, coupled with a stressful situation are all possibilities. I think you need to get some medical testing, certainly take a small amount of melatonin from now on, ( and raise the level by a few milligrams to see if that helps ). And please talk to a good therapist. I think that this is a multi- faceted problem. I have gone through something similar.

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@colely I have a very simple answer. Stop reading newspapers, stop watching the news, drop your Facebook account and pray. What is going on now is enough to give anyone panic attacks. I am 74 and I never ever thought this was something we would ever have to deal with.
Where is the greatest generation when we need them?

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@colely I have a very simple answer. Stop reading newspapers, stop watching the news, drop your Facebook account and pray. What is going on now is enough to give anyone panic attacks. I am 74 and I never ever thought this was something we would ever have to deal with.
Where is the greatest generation when we need them?

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@daveshaw I agree. Don’t watch the news. It is so negative. Social media can be toxic. I wish I had an answer. I find it all depressing

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MeryW....I have taken Effexor/Venlafaxine for about 30 yrs, sometimes replacing with something else, but always go back to Effexor. My issue is anxiety and this med seems to work best for me. But presently I am slowly replacing the Effesor with Mirtazapine, as read it has no sexual side effects. Been about 2 weeks. I also take CBD/CBN oil which very much helps with sleep and so far has no side effects other than not giving a shit about the future. I do think CBD oil might be a great addition when attempting to lower or change medications. Good luck!

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@colely I have a very simple answer. Stop reading newspapers, stop watching the news, drop your Facebook account and pray. What is going on now is enough to give anyone panic attacks. I am 74 and I never ever thought this was something we would ever have to deal with.
Where is the greatest generation when we need them?

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@daveshaw I do pray and I don’t want the news anymore.

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