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Any suggestions for a loved one who can't use a computer?
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Oh my. Your insight and understanding meant so much. Thank you!
You're right. My husband, even with all those annoying shortcomings of his, can do so many other things I will one day miss terribly. It just, sometimes, feels like he takes what I do for granted and thinks the things he does are so much more important. I just feel a sense of pity for him when I think of how lost he would feel in this everchanging world if something happens to me first. Poor dear gets texting and emailing mixed up, thinking they're one in the same. Wouldn't be able to figure out how to listen to our music, operate our electronic photo frame, or figure out the TV if he had an issue with it or correspond with his doctors, etc. He has zero interest in learning yet depends and enjoys the benefits of all of these technological advances. Of course, I probably would be just as lost if something happens to him first. I wouldn't be mowing the grass, blowing snow or filling our water softener myself. That's for sure.
How long have you been without your husband?
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Hi!
Thanks for getting back to me and for your kind words! In answer to your question, my husband died in July, 2024. He was 83. It takes a while to get over the shock and get a somewhat normal life again. I think I'm slowly getting there. However, you never really get over the loneliness. Two things have helped me get through this awful time. One was remembering how often in the last year we had together that we told each other how much we loved one another. The other thing was prayer. I don't know where I'd be without God. I asked him to take this terrible sadness that I was feeling, away. I knew my husband was in Heaven and out of pain but still I kept feeling so sad. My prayers were answered and I'm in a much better place now psychologically than I was!
I wouldn't worry about your husband's computer skills etc. He's probably not feeling that good and it's hard to learn anything new when you don't feel well. It's great that you are helping him with everything! Be sure and tell him how much you love him!
I'll say a prayer for you both.
PML