@rosemarya I guess I am just a different type or something because I really felt good after transplant except for the times when I thought of the grief the donor family must be enduring. These were not overwhelming thoughts though.
For me, I think the best thing was getting back to being active which I did as soon as I was given the green light. When you are active you cannot dwell on things or feel miserable. I highly recommend activity as the best antidote. It may be difficult to begin being active but it is well worth it. The only person I know who has also gone through a life threatening condition is a friend in CA who had breast cancer. She was a huge support for me. The other people in my water aerobics class were great too.
For me personally, getting back to normalcy is essential. I remember even after the death of my mother my great managers told me to take as much time as I needed with pay. I was back in two days. It does no good to sit around feeling bad.
JK