I try to not ever use those “ I told you so “ words. I also always try to explain why I am trying to get him to do something, I can’t say I am 100 percent at it but I do try. I also alway try to make him feel useful. He use to be the main cook in our home because he was very good at it and I hate it. I have to do the cooking now , but I try to include him by asking his simple things about the recipe I am using. He seems to remember quite a bit about cooking. I do know the recipe but it includes him if I ask for his “ advice “ on the recipe, cook times, temp , spices etc.
He is not walking for now , so I use an electric peddle exerciser to keep the circulation in his legs and feet.
I will definitely go to the 2 sites you posted. I can always use suggestions to try and help him . Thank you so much