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Husband with untreated depression/anxiety
My husband has untreated depression & anxiety for most of his life. We have been married for47 years & are in our 70’s now. He has been on medication in the past and it was helpful sometimes-others not. He gave up 10 years ago because he didn’t like the side effects. He refuses counseling or even talking to me about his feelings. As we have gotten older, this has become almost unbearable for both of us. I am a cancer survivor and want to enjoy my good days & have some support on my bad. I am willing to do this for him but he’s shut off. I feel hopeless.
Does anyone have any ideas, advice, hope for me? Don’t know where to turn. Thank you!
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It's been my experience that one will eventually do "something" when they "get tired of being sick and tired!" I would enjoy the battle that you won with cancer, let him know that you love him and are here for him and willing to help when the time comes. Other than that, unfortunately, there is not much more to do.
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Yes your right there is nothing anyone can do to help.
Hi Razorsharp,
I'm so sorry that you have cancer! That's awful and so hard to deal with. It's good that you have a wonderful wife and have for 43 years! I'm sure that helps you get through this bad time.
God did make us but Satan causes us to get the illnesses we have, cancers, heart attacks, etc. God heals us and gets rid of the illness; whether it's here on Earth or when we die and go to Heaven and have no more illness. I don't know why God allows Satan to do that but that's the way it is. Praying helps and increases wellness.
I hope you didn't think I was pushing my religion on you. You did ask me if God made the human race. I was merely explaining how I knew this to be true, at least to me. That's why I told you what works for me and then mentioned the Biblical proof. (It's a leftover habit of all the research I did in college.)
You have the right to believe however you want to. This is America and that's one of the things that make it such a great country. I hope everything works out well for you and I will say a prayer for you.
I wish you the best.
PML
Dear PML
Thank you for your message I am very happy you came back to me & just the way you put you it your message was very nice. & I promise I will never hassle you again about you in believing God or Religion
My Cancer has no cure I am but that is ok with me I'm ready for what ever happen next because I am to old to worry about it. I'm only here for the Cancer Reacher lot to try out there new drugs on. I have attached a fife to this message I hope you can open it because if it works I want you to look very hard at the 4 dots for about 30 sec then look away into the corner of your room and blink your eyes . Try it then let me know if you see what I have seen many many time. Take Care PLM . By the way I'm in Sydney Australia
Hi Razorsharp,
Thanks for getting back to me. I appreciate the kind words. I looked at the fife but my computer wouldn't open it. I looked at the title and noticed it said JesusJPG. Is it supposed to show a picture of Jesus? What did you see when you looked at it? Jesus is the son of God. Many people think Jesus and God are the same person but they are not. In the Bible God stated, "This is my son in whom I am well pleased." when Jesus was being baptized by John the Baptist. But enough about religion.
My husband had lung cancer. He died a year ago. When he had Keytruda it almost killed him! One of the side effects of it is pancreatitis and he got that. Also the chemotherapy reacted badly on him too. Finally, my husband just refused to have anymore of their drugs. The doctors didn't like it, but it was his body and his money! The Keytruda alone cost $25,000 an infusion! After he quit the medications my husband lived with stage 4 lung cancer for 14 years. He wasn't feeling ill until the last year of his life.
So, you are in Sydney, Australia. How nice! My husband and I used to order lobsters from a place in West Australia. They were so good! They tasted like lobster used to taste in the 1960's. That's because Australia's water is still clean. I live in Edmonds, Washington which is 15 miles north of crime ridden Seattle. Both areas used to have wonderful seafood but now it's all polluted. I never eat the seafood from here anymore. Only from Australia when I can afford it.
I hope things go well for you with your cancer. I'll still pray for you.
I wish you the best.
PML
Good morning PML
Yes if you can see the 4 little dots that is a start all you need to do is try & make the picture a little bit bigger & then do as I said.
You should see a shadow of the face of Jesus, A friend sent it to me and I could
not believe what I was looking at.
Reading about your Hubby Cancer & Mine is that my Cancer is all still in the Blood in the Liver & Pancreatic. it has not yet gone to any other parts of my body at the moment but it keeps showing up in other parts of my Liver , It's only a matter of time before it gets away and that is the part that I'm Not looking forward to because of the pain that come with it
Would you like me to send you some Lobster from Australia LOL >(:0) ????
Take care & Bye Bye From Aussie
Hi Razorsharp!
Thank you for getting back to me. I didn't see any red dots but I'll try and make the picture bigger as you suggested.
You and your wife look so nice in your picture! Your wife has the prettiest red hair! I always wanted red hair but only had blonde.
About your cancer, what really helped my husband with his cancer was eating good quality red meat. I know they insist these days that it's not good for you but I'm sure it is a large part of the reason that my husband lived 14 more years! Your body is fighting a disease and it needs all the help it can get. There is a lot of iron and omega 3 in red meat which is very good for you.
Thank you for the offer of the lobster! That was very kind! That lobster would help your cancer also. You might want to try some. It's a large company near Perth in West Australia. They sell it much cheaper from their store than what we paid online. If I can find the name of it, I'll let you know. Or, you could call the Perth Library and ask them. It's a well known lobster company.
I will still pray for both you and your wife going through this whole thing with your cancer.
I wish you both the best!
PML
Hi PML
The Dots are not Red but Black Ok
As for us eat good Red meat & Pork Chop/ Lam Chops / Fish we both eat find maybe that's why I'm still here LOL
As for the lobster, Going to Perth is 4,000 Km away from Sydney so I don't think I will be going that far to pick up my Lobster LOL
Beside the cost is outrages at a $48.00 Au per Kl , Not thanks they can keep it .
Yes my little wife like Red Hair & so do I .
Anyway thank you for your kind thoughts Cheers From us Down Under