Should i get an esophagectomy?

Posted by RickK @sosereal, Jun 22, 2025

Hello, I have posted for different esophageal items in the past. I would like your input on my situation. I am a 64 year old male, 2b adenocarcinoma. I have just completed my chemo and radiation, my surgery is scheduled for July 30. I question moving fwd. with the esophagectomy. I literally have zero support or care giver. My few friends are a few phone conversations and no face to face. For unknown reasons my adult children had ghosted me some time back, they know of my situation but have not acknowledged it or me in any way. I understand they have their own lives too but I have made every attempt to communicate with them to no avail. I also have 7 grand children I haven't seen in 3 years.
Honestly I feel as though I don't have much to live for due to my isolation, the surgery invasiveness, recovery, poor quality of life and a 30% chance of making it 3-5 years makes me question if its worth it.
.... For those of you who have gone through or may be going to go through your own surgery, please share your honest thoughts and insight. Shall I move fwd. with the surgery or take what time I get? What would you do?

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Profile picture for goldenshadow @goldenshadow

Hi Rick I’m 6 months post surgery and 3 months post treatments. So I had flot treatments that’s 4 chemo treatments every other week for 2 months. Waited 5 weeks then had surgery 9 hr was in hospital 8 days. Then I could eat again it had been 6 months since I could eat. Then waited 4 more weeks had my last 4 treatments. Now I’ve had my scan all clear. So I’m 62 almost 63 couple months. I’m able to do most anything I want. Eating is still tricky at times. So I eat smaller meals makes it easier to digest. My digestive system is definitely not the same. So Rick for me it was easy I wanted the best chance for survival so I can still have a good life with my wife and family. When you have people around you who care for you and you care for them. I want the most time I can get. So I hope this helps wishing you all the best!! I believe you got this!! Scott

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One more thing to add you do have control of some of this. Your ability to control your attitude positive and your emotions grateful and also some exercise like walking. I was surprised how much that helps 1/2 hour a day was great or more. Best wishes !! Scott

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Thank you Scott. I am happy you are doing well!

For myself its buzzare because I did not have or currently have zero symptoms. Other than minor fatigue after chemo and radiation. So im pretty bummed thinking whats ahead of me. As for support, i am happy for you that you have family and friends. For myself I am very grateful I have people like your self and others that have reached out with support.

I will move forward.
...One day and one step at a time...

Rick K

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Hi Chip.
Thank you. I have T2B
Adenocarcinoma carcinoma. It made ot through the wall and affecting 2 known lymph nodes. I have my last scans on July 30. If clear I can then have surgery on the 30th. My oncologist filled me in that with out surgery the cancer will likely metastasize with in 18 months. But surgery has no guarantees either . Metastasizing of the cancer can definitely occur along with ahost of other complications and a poor quality of life. Im still on the wall.. the clock is ticking.
RVK

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Rick,
I REALLY hope you get the "best" treatment available to you and beat this! As I said I was very lucky mine had NOT gotten into the lymph nodes. Please keep me informed about your choice and how your recovery is going. My best thoughts are with you.
Chip

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Hi Rick, I would get the surgery done. I had the FLOT treatments , chemo, surgery, then more chemo. I am on my last round of chemotherapy next week and then will be monitored for any recurrence for a few years. I decided on the esophagectomy because I wanted to tumor out. The recovery process wasn't bad. I eat smaller meals now and have dropped some weight, but know I can gain it back through supplementing meals with protein shakes and lifting weights. You can do it! A lot of stuff you read online can be doomsday news! I am single, kids were busy, so it was just me that recovered at home. Stay strong, and positive vibes your way! Clark

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Profile picture for goldenshadow @goldenshadow

Hi Rick I’m 6 months post surgery and 3 months post treatments. So I had flot treatments that’s 4 chemo treatments every other week for 2 months. Waited 5 weeks then had surgery 9 hr was in hospital 8 days. Then I could eat again it had been 6 months since I could eat. Then waited 4 more weeks had my last 4 treatments. Now I’ve had my scan all clear. So I’m 62 almost 63 couple months. I’m able to do most anything I want. Eating is still tricky at times. So I eat smaller meals makes it easier to digest. My digestive system is definitely not the same. So Rick for me it was easy I wanted the best chance for survival so I can still have a good life with my wife and family. When you have people around you who care for you and you care for them. I want the most time I can get. So I hope this helps wishing you all the best!! I believe you got this!! Scott

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This makes me feel a little better. My husband just had his first scan post 4 rounds of Flot and it’s showing a great deal of shrinkage of the mass and no metastasis. We have an appointment with the surgeon next Monday and are nervous now. I know this is a major surgery and it’s scary, but it is what it is at this point. I’m just hoping and praying the next step goes well!

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This makes me feel a little better. My husband just had his first scan post 4 rounds of Flot and it’s showing a great deal of shrinkage of the mass and no metastasis. We have an appointment with the surgeon next Monday and are nervous now. I know this is a major surgery and it’s scary, but it is what it is at this point. I’m just hoping and praying the next step goes well!

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My husband just completed his four rounds of chemo. He will start radiation/chemo July 14 and then headed towards the surgery. I totally understand why you’re nervous and scared but, I look at it this way we try to look at each segment and focus only on that to get through it. it’s unknown always in the beginning but once you’re in it, you just take one day at a time and keep working through it. We found this helpful instead of anticipating best of luck to you and your family, here’s to living in the moment.

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My husband just completed his four rounds of chemo. He will start radiation/chemo July 14 and then headed towards the surgery. I totally understand why you’re nervous and scared but, I look at it this way we try to look at each segment and focus only on that to get through it. it’s unknown always in the beginning but once you’re in it, you just take one day at a time and keep working through it. We found this helpful instead of anticipating best of luck to you and your family, here’s to living in the moment.

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ThAnk you very much, I wish you all the very best!
I guess the surgery is secondary to my kids having ghosted me and i have zero face to face support or caregiver. It will be a challenge .
Rick K

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Profile picture for goldenshadow @goldenshadow

Hi Rick I’m 6 months post surgery and 3 months post treatments. So I had flot treatments that’s 4 chemo treatments every other week for 2 months. Waited 5 weeks then had surgery 9 hr was in hospital 8 days. Then I could eat again it had been 6 months since I could eat. Then waited 4 more weeks had my last 4 treatments. Now I’ve had my scan all clear. So I’m 62 almost 63 couple months. I’m able to do most anything I want. Eating is still tricky at times. So I eat smaller meals makes it easier to digest. My digestive system is definitely not the same. So Rick for me it was easy I wanted the best chance for survival so I can still have a good life with my wife and family. When you have people around you who care for you and you care for them. I want the most time I can get. So I hope this helps wishing you all the best!! I believe you got this!! Scott

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Thank you Scott. Im glad things are going as well as they can for you!
Sadly I have no family. Caregiver or face to face support. Ill do ok.
RickK

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Profile picture for lasvegas60 @lasvegas60

Hi Rick, I would get the surgery done. I had the FLOT treatments , chemo, surgery, then more chemo. I am on my last round of chemotherapy next week and then will be monitored for any recurrence for a few years. I decided on the esophagectomy because I wanted to tumor out. The recovery process wasn't bad. I eat smaller meals now and have dropped some weight, but know I can gain it back through supplementing meals with protein shakes and lifting weights. You can do it! A lot of stuff you read online can be doomsday news! I am single, kids were busy, so it was just me that recovered at home. Stay strong, and positive vibes your way! Clark

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Clark, Thank you! Im glad things are going ok for you!
Your right. Theres alot on line to bring a person down. I guess om mostly concerned about my post quality of life. I will be ok.
Thank you! RickK

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Profile picture for chip30 @chip30

Rick,
I REALLY hope you get the "best" treatment available to you and beat this! As I said I was very lucky mine had NOT gotten into the lymph nodes. Please keep me informed about your choice and how your recovery is going. My best thoughts are with you.
Chip

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Thank you Chip.
Ive got alot on my mind. It gets worse the closer to my scedualed surgery date of July 30. I need to decide pretty quick.
Thank you.
Rick

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