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How to handle anxiety, stress and depression now that I was diagnosed?

Posted by mandi123 @mandi123, May 22 2:04pm

I have seen psychiatrist and tried some meds, most didnt work. I was dx with ocular melanoma last October. then cancer appeared in February, 4 months later. I have stage 4 liver cancer now. I stay stressed and can’t sleep

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standinginfaith | @standinginfaith | Jun 2 6:26pm
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I was diagnosed with a lung disease which was quite aggressive and required a lung transplant I had many times when I died and was revived. I would feel a tingling in my head due to lack of oxygen and then wake up in Intensive care. In my mind I experienced pleasant thoughts, for five weeks the doctors hounded my wife to turn of the life support, while I was living in another dimension. When I came to, I was floating in and out and that world blended with the real world, it essentially became my reality. It was far from unpleasant, it was weird but not unpleasant. Treat your physical symptoms and get our affairs in order. You should not suffer regardless, when you see a child less than 5 years old getting chemo think of everything you have done and achieved that that child never got to do. I hope with all my heart you manage to pull through, my chances were 5%. But if you don't, please make sure you take whatever you need to not suffer. My mother decided to be a pariah and was anti-medication due to stigmas. Eventually I talked her into taking what was necessary, her journey was peaceful and most importantly painless. She was suffering the same disease as me (very similar) and slowly losing the ability to breathe, I can tell you I would rather just get hit by a car than go through that, but I did and was lucky enough to get a lung transplant. I am not sure if this will make sense to you, but I wish they pulled the plug because surviving in my case leaves me suffering every day with limitations and medications that are cytotoxic (cause cancer). My thoughts are with you, and I hope you get the best outcome for you.

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Prayers for you!!

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razorsharp | @razorsharp | Jun 3 5:26am
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Prayers for you!!

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Yes you are so right in what you said. I stopped feeling sorry for myself when you go to the hospital for you Chemo Treatment & see a mother taking her little Boy or Girl for a walk in the sunshine in a wheelchair. I am 80Yrs old and had a great life & the Kids are only 6 or 7 yrs old I feel so sorry for the mothers and fathers of all these kids Thank you & Keep on Praying for the Kids

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standinginfaith | @standinginfaith | Jun 3 9:42am

I sure will sir!! I have supported ST Jude since June 2011 when I lost my dear husband to lung cancer..God bless you and your kind heart!!

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razorsharp | @razorsharp | Jun 3 10:19am

When I was told that I had Liver & Pancreas cancer & it was inoperable
I went into shock and all sorts of stuff rushed through my head because I was told that it was so rear they would be lucky to find 23 people in the hole of Australia who has the same cancer as mine & if it started to move I had about 5 to 6 weeks to live, but I got lucky & they started the Chemo treatment on me with in 10 days. Mind you after having Chemo for 6 months I felt like I wanted to die anyway. But the PET Scans showed the Chemo had killed a lot of the Cancer much to my Doctor surprise. So now they have stopped the chemo and started me on Immune treatment. so now we are waiting on the next PET Scan. If been told you have a very bad Cancer is bad but what happen next was almost as bad, I went into panic mode & then put out house on the market thinking that if I do die my little wife would not be able to look after it on her own so I Sold out only to find out that I sold out to fast and lost about $75,000 because of it. but we did ok . To make a long story short these are some of the Dum things you do when your in shock because my life has changed so muck since the 29 July 20 2024 and it not over yet. Another thing that helped me a lot was going for the Chemo, was that here I was sitting in a room full of others poor people in the fighting all sorts of Cancer & a lot of them where years younger then I am to day ( 80 yrs ) sitting beside me was a young lady how has 3 kids and pays $600 per week rent & no other members of her family lives in Australia to help her and the kids & she only 37 Yrs old with lung and liver Cancer . May God help her I hope so. So if you think your having a real bad time, look around you & put yourself in her shoes and all the kids that have Cancer

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razorsharp | @razorsharp | Jun 4 7:23pm

My friend, that is understandable not been able to sleep because your world has just came crashing down on you. I've been there & 1 year later I'm still there. The only way I can get any sleep is for me to talk sleeping tabs ever night, The Cancer problem I have is not the only reason I can't sleep, I've got passed thinking about the Cancer, it all the other stuff that is going on around you at the moment. My poor little wife is also ever sick so I spend most of my days looking after her & sometimes I think why don't we just sit here & take lots & lots of sleeping Tablets together & put an end to it. But we just Keep Fighting on you just never know what's going to happen tomorrow

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razorsharp | @razorsharp | Jun 5 9:36am
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I sure will sir!! I have supported ST Jude since June 2011 when I lost my dear husband to lung cancer..God bless you and your kind heart!!

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Please there is no need to call me Sir my friend. I am just another person in this world that has this Cancer bug inside of me and I've meet many others Men & Ladies who have had the same as your poor Hubby & If there have gone, in one way it is a good thing because the pain they had has stopped & they are happy now. No one wants to sit there and watch a love one in pain because there is nothing you can do to help them so don't be sad just keep thinking about great times you had before you lost him. Ok

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standinginfaith | @standinginfaith | Jun 5 3:34pm
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Please there is no need to call me Sir my friend. I am just another person in this world that has this Cancer bug inside of me and I've meet many others Men & Ladies who have had the same as your poor Hubby & If there have gone, in one way it is a good thing because the pain they had has stopped & they are happy now. No one wants to sit there and watch a love one in pain because there is nothing you can do to help them so don't be sad just keep thinking about great times you had before you lost him. Ok

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OK!!!! ..One thing I am surely grateful for is.. he went before me because I loved him more than I love my self...It'll be 15 years June 16th.. and I remember him with so much warmth in my heart!! (I have been extremely ill for about 5 years now.. stomach issues..so I am glad he's not here to see me suffer..I know he's in Heaven.. and I am glad!!) Be blessed my friend .. I'll be praying for you!!

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razorsharp | @razorsharp | Jun 5 9:11pm

Your more then welcome my friend, Bye bye now but if you ever want someone to chat to you know what to do Ok

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razorsharp | @razorsharp | Jun 6 7:10pm

Hello my friend. What is that old saying Welcome to the club. I don't know how old you are but that does not matter & all the problems your having, even one else is having them as well and there not a dam thing we can do about it.
As for not been able to sleep and been stress out all the time is what most of us are all going through so you are not the only one who has that problem
When I go to bed and go to sleep, I don't want to walk up the next day to another day of hell and believe me that really stresses me out more then anything So Stop worrying about not been able to sleep or been stress out. so just sit back and enjoy life with what time you may have left like I do like I do.

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hadassah70 | @hadassah70 | 6 days ago

How to handle anxiety, stress and depression _ by Bipolar person who the doctors have now deemed stable.

Exercise, healthy diet, think about positive things, things that make you happy, positive affirmations or prayer, cooking a tasty dish, read a good book, enjoy your life the best you can. If you have friends go some place together have a day trip or holiday. Keep positive stay safe weoucha.

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