Lifelong Gut Struggles.... Has anyone else felt like giving up hope?

Posted by lee2025 @lee2025, 19 hours ago

Has anyone else felt like they’ve done everything right for months… and their gut still won’t cooperate? 🙁

I’m 41, an expat living in China for the past 16 years, and I’ve been on a deep gut healing journey for the last 4-5 months. After receiving a DNA test focusing on gut health and immunity, I discovered I have fructose malabsorption, multiple food intolerances, and allergies to dairy, oats, peanuts, dust, and grass (seriously?!). Honestly, after years of living with daily gut issues—likely worsened by China’s air quality and environmental stress—I finally committed to a total reset.

Since then, I’ve overhauled my life:

- No eating out
- Super clean, unprocessed, anti-inflammatory diet
- Over an hour a day spent de-stressing through breathwork, yoga, mindfulness, and journaling
- No sugar, alcohol, or caffeine

Not a single shortcut—truly doing the work!

And yet... I’m still being teased with moments of progress (a half decent poop), followed by the dreaded return of muddy, broken, floating stools—like The Empire Strikes Back, but in my toilet. 💩

It’s been one of the hardest journeys of my life.
And I’m so so so tired of it!

I’d love your help and insight if you’ve been in similar shoes:
- What could be going on when muddy stool keeps returning despite strict lifestyle changes?
- How did you know when you were dealing with leaky gut vs. IBS vs. possible histamine intolerance?
- Have you found a rhythm with reintroducing foods safely—or does your gut just “decide” when it’s going to turn?
- How did you stay mentally strong when healing felt like one step forward, two steps back?

I’m open, committed, and still hopeful—but it’s getting harder to hang onto that hope alone.

Thanks for reading this and holding space. Just knowing someone else gets it helps more than you know! 🙏

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I am on a similar path to yours. Mine is partially due to prescription med- the dose was reduced. I am very close to a state of hyperthyroidism so the dose of that med was adjusted. I havd ptsd so there is a factor. I started using a mix of green peppermint and ginger- lemon tea. This helps me too. Still adjusting my diet. I cannot drink milk anymore. Dark chocolate helps.

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@kb2014

I am on a similar path to yours. Mine is partially due to prescription med- the dose was reduced. I am very close to a state of hyperthyroidism so the dose of that med was adjusted. I havd ptsd so there is a factor. I started using a mix of green peppermint and ginger- lemon tea. This helps me too. Still adjusting my diet. I cannot drink milk anymore. Dark chocolate helps.

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Thanks for the reply. Can I ask how long you've been on your healing journey and if/when you've started to see any real change? The strangest part of this journey has been how incredibly sensitive my gut has now become, after making so many healthy changes to what I eat. I'm hoping this is a good thing.

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Amazing how many, especially woman, have the same issues then yours, after several years with constipation, diarrhea, etc. and doctors telling me I have IBS live with it I finally was diagnosed with collagenous colitis after a biopsy during a colonoscopy, the only way to diagnose this disease, can not be cured but kind of managed with medication and diet. I am also gluten sensitive, lactose etc. at least now I know the cause of my colon issues and can handle it better. You might especially at your age have this checked better then the not knowing.

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Hi @lee2025
Thank you so much for posting. “Just knowing someone else gets it helps more than you know! 🙏“.
I am here to simply sit with you, and say…..the struggle real, and exhausting. I get it!

I keep seeing more about gut microbiome, also the gut-brain connection. The more I learn how to navigate my own journey the more I realize just how much seems to be a mystery. I found a couple resources down this path:
-research is happening: https://www.mayo.edu/research/centers-programs/enteric-neuroscience-program/overview
-gut brain overview: https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/body/the-gut-brain-connection

It sounds like genetics gave you a place to hone in and focus. How did this work?
Do you notice any systemic cycles of whatever-ness happening in your body? I know, I know…living in a bubble enough to be able to answer that question is part of the exhaustion.

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Thank you for sharing your experience. I have struggled with rotating diarrhea/ constipation for 30 years and am in the middle of a five day constipation event following last weekend's three days of diarrhea. My gastroenterologist has yet to find a cause and I'm extremely careful with drugs as last fall I was diagnosed with liver Fibrosis, thanks to three years of Prednisone, followed by methotrexate to recover from Polymyalgia Rheumatica. I have lost 30 pounds and lessened my fibrosis degree through a diet very much like yours. In February I had emergency surgery when an abdominal adhesion from an old surgery attempted to strangle my bowel. Fortunately, the surgeon saved my bowel but its performance never improved. As I'm getting ready to call my doctor on a holiday weekend, believe me when I say, I feel your pain. Hugs for you and don't give up the fight.

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