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Caregivers: Getting strength from you who are posting here

Posted by macbeth @macbeth, Dec 11, 2016

I have to say to the many of you who are, or have been, into caregiving for many years, that I admire what you have done or what you are doing. Being into our situation for only a few years, the last 2 1/2 years being 24/7/365, I just don't know how many of you have done it. I think love is what carries us through. I am aware how even much more difficult this may become. @IndianaScott, reading your posts, I don't know how you did it all, especially toward the end. I pray that I will be able to see my husband through his journey, but I have begun to wonder whether I will be able to do that, or whether it will kill me first. Yet, somehow, we find the strength to carry on. There just has to be a breakthrough soon.

Macbeth

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Scott, Volunteer Mentor | @IndianaScott | Dec 12, 2016

Good morning @macbeth. You got this! You are right, it is not an easy path, but as you pointed out love is an incredibly powerful force. There were many, many days I would wake in the morning not knowing how in the world I would make it to sundown, but somehow we managed. Your inner strength has reserves most of us know little of until we are directed by love to tap into them. I have come to realize the only reason I could do what I did was due to this force of love. In no way could I do what I did just for money as a job.

You are far more amazing and incredible than you may know! We each can only do our best. We all have human limits. Love can help extend our range in all we do though.

My best half has been gone now for just over 5 months and my body is still struggling to not wake up every two hours all night. I am trying my best to adjust 'naturally' and regain my more regular circadian rhythms and have faith in my new GP that this will simply take a while after being in such a non-normal state for so long. My mantra is found in looking back and recognizing my wife and I were married for over 41 years. For the first 2/3's of that she took care of me and our family as I chased the 'brass ring' in corporate America. For the last 1/3 I just needed to repay that favor. 🙂

I send you strength, courage, and peace!

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macbeth | @macbeth | Dec 12, 2016
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@IndianaScott

Good morning @macbeth. You got this! You are right, it is not an easy path, but as you pointed out love is an incredibly powerful force. There were many, many days I would wake in the morning not knowing how in the world I would make it to sundown, but somehow we managed. Your inner strength has reserves most of us know little of until we are directed by love to tap into them. I have come to realize the only reason I could do what I did was due to this force of love. In no way could I do what I did just for money as a job.

You are far more amazing and incredible than you may know! We each can only do our best. We all have human limits. Love can help extend our range in all we do though.

My best half has been gone now for just over 5 months and my body is still struggling to not wake up every two hours all night. I am trying my best to adjust 'naturally' and regain my more regular circadian rhythms and have faith in my new GP that this will simply take a while after being in such a non-normal state for so long. My mantra is found in looking back and recognizing my wife and I were married for over 41 years. For the first 2/3's of that she took care of me and our family as I chased the 'brass ring' in corporate America. For the last 1/3 I just needed to repay that favor. 🙂

I send you strength, courage, and peace!

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@IndianaScott

Thank you for the pep talk. That's how I have felt, too, looking back at what a difference my husband has made in my life, and how he has taken care of me over the years. So, on we go.

Thank you again. Your thoughts and words have helped.

Macbeth

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Teresa, Volunteer Mentor | @hopeful33250 | Dec 13, 2016
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@IndianaScott

Good morning @macbeth. You got this! You are right, it is not an easy path, but as you pointed out love is an incredibly powerful force. There were many, many days I would wake in the morning not knowing how in the world I would make it to sundown, but somehow we managed. Your inner strength has reserves most of us know little of until we are directed by love to tap into them. I have come to realize the only reason I could do what I did was due to this force of love. In no way could I do what I did just for money as a job.

You are far more amazing and incredible than you may know! We each can only do our best. We all have human limits. Love can help extend our range in all we do though.

My best half has been gone now for just over 5 months and my body is still struggling to not wake up every two hours all night. I am trying my best to adjust 'naturally' and regain my more regular circadian rhythms and have faith in my new GP that this will simply take a while after being in such a non-normal state for so long. My mantra is found in looking back and recognizing my wife and I were married for over 41 years. For the first 2/3's of that she took care of me and our family as I chased the 'brass ring' in corporate America. For the last 1/3 I just needed to repay that favor. 🙂

I send you strength, courage, and peace!

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@IndianaScott Beautifully written, Scott. Thanks for sharing those thoughts!

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cathead | @cathead | Dec 13, 2016

I am in my 4 year of care giving for my wife, I pray every day for strength to go the next day. She has other problems such as walking and getting up out of a chair. We have been married for 61 years and I cannot give up, but cherish your prayers.

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Colleen Young, Connect Director | @colleenyoung | Dec 13, 2016

Welcome @cathead. I'm thankful that this new discussion from @macbeth encouraged you to post a message. We look forward to getting to know more about you, and your caregiving situation. Do you care for your wife at your home?

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