Happiness for Old Folks

Lately I’ve been thinking about the value of happiness as we age.
Neuroscientists say that we don’t ever have “objective” thoughts separate from underlying feelings. We often don’t realize how those feelings are shaping our thoughts, and then those thoughts loop back to re-enforce those feelings.
As we age, our bodies may honestly not always feel so good, increasing the likelihood that those underlying feelings may be moving our thoughts in a negative direction.
And things happening around us may also be triggering fears, worries and negative feelings.

But the other side of this is that good feelings can encourage positive thoughts, and a deeper sense that we can handle this life.

So, I’ve been noticing and thinking about happiness.

Happiness is a feeling, a very pleasant feeling.
Do we need a reason to justify feeling happy?
How about the real fact that happiness feels good, and empowers us to do and live better? Happiness helps us enjoy taking care of ourselves.

Here’s a little story:
I was heading out for a walk with Hazel, my wonderful hound.
The air was cool and the sunlight was gentle and warm.
I felt very happy.
Then out of the house came our grumpy neighbors.
I don’t enjoy them and they don’t enjoy me, and their non-response to a friendly hello communicates that.
I felt my happiness fading.
But just in time I caught my mood change and decided to refocus on my happy feelings.
Bingo!
Not only was I happy again about the cool air and warm sun and beautiful dog, I was also happy about my happiness!

So I think this is a skill for old folks (and all folks) to learn.
Can I feel grateful and happy just because I can feel happy?
Can I learn intentional happiness?
How does my body feel happy?
-Relaxed, easy smile
-Shoulders and chest relaxed
-Breathing feels smooth and full
-The ground feels firm and friendly under my feet
-What new feelings can I feel?

So, that’s my theory about happiness.

What do you think?
What stories can you share?
I look forward to some great responses!