@ contentandwell I'm sorry that it was not such a great revelation. I remember when i got the Heart i did go thru a guilt complex for a few days. Until my pastor talked to me and reassured me that no matter what your doner was not going to live anyway. I kept feeling like someone has to die for me to live. But i was thinking backwards. They were going to die anyway and at least for there family something good came out of it. I can see where the fact that she was your daughter age would be a tough. Thanks for sharing