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@danab I didn't hear back from my donor's family for almost a year, and then they gave me a lot of detail about her. Honestly, I almost wish I didn't know as much as I now do. It makes me very sad to know all that I know, I almost feel like I knew her. That is compounded by the fact that she was the same age as my daughter, had the same name, the same general profession, and was similar in size. I just think about how I would feel if it had been my daughter and feel overwhelmed with sadness for her husband and parents at times.
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@ contentandwell I'm sorry that it was not such a great revelation. I remember when i got the Heart i did go thru a guilt complex for a few days. Until my pastor talked to me and reassured me that no matter what your doner was not going to live anyway. I kept feeling like someone has to die for me to live. But i was thinking backwards. They were going to die anyway and at least for there family something good came out of it. I can see where the fact that she was your daughter age would be a tough. Thanks for sharing
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@contentandwell I am glad to know my donor's family. They shared quite a lot and we keep in touch. I have come to terms with the fact that she was just starting her adult life. I know from her family that she wanted to donate her organs and they followed through with her wishes. She did nothing to bring on her own death, it was a tragic accident that helped improve the lives of many living people. This young woman could have been my daughter and I would have loved that. As it is, her family is consoled knowing how many people have been, are and will be helped by her donations. Knowing that they are proud of her accomplishments has helped me lose any feeling of guilt over accepting her donation.