I had a deceased donor kidney transplant in December. Initially I had not even the ambition to read, but now I am back to escaping in fiction books, movies,TV. I really need to escape. My husband died in July of cancer at age 59. We were devoted to each other and it is devastating. It is hard to sort out my post-transplant feelings vs. dealing with grief and missing him. Also my exhaustion--related to the transplant or to grief and the endless work of settling the estate of your beloved? I certainly note changes in thought patterns, work ambition, etc. but again it is hard to sort out. I'm so grateful for successful transplant, but this is a painful path.

@linmarie, I offer my deepest sympathy to you on the death of your husband. Three years ago my dear brother died suddenly and I still vividly recall the grief due his death. I also remember my sis-in-law (more like a sister) and the pain she endured, and still does to this day. But her faith and her family have provided her with the ability to keep on going.

Congratulations on receiving your successful kidney transplant. I hope that you continue to do well. I think that it is okay for you to take it easy. In fact, I encourage you to do so.
Thank you for sharing on this forum the changes that you have experienced related to the transplant. I am always happy to meet another transplant recipient. I invite you to make a return visit, whenever you feel up to it.
Sending a Hug.
Rosemary
Here is one discussion that you might find interesting. Our members are sharing everyday healthy ideas.
https://connect.mayoclinic.org/discussion/living-life-after-your-transplant/

@linmarie, I am so sorry for what you are going through. I cannot imagine having to deal with both simultaneously.
I hope the path gets a bit easier for you as time goes on and that you are able to move forward. I know it can be so hard.
Again, I am truly sorry.

I have some fatigue recently too, more than I did when I first started feeling better. I had reached a point where I didn't feel the need for a nap but recently I find I frequently do. I'm not sure if it's because of lots of activity or if it's a reaction to my transplant, but it's there.
JK

I'm so sorry that you have so much on your plate.
I will keep you in my prayers.

@linmarie My goodness you have a lot on your plate. On a positive note I've heard it said "Pain builds character & What doesn't kill you makes you stronger". Although I have to admit whenever I've been a victim of hardship I've found it hard to believe one day I will be a survivor which is the accumulation of strife & overcoming it. Thank you for sharing.