Today would have been our 60 wedding anniversary: Feel lost

@clarion01, how are you doing today?

I know how you feel. The longer you have been together, the worse it is. Our 63rd anniversary (if my husband was still alive) will be coming up in July. I am still in deep grief. I am very old, but thankfully still independent. I have no people to support me. At 90 I do not know how many more years I may have. Thankfully I do not seem to have any major illnesses. I wonder if all the drugs older people take make them worse. I am not an anti-vaccer. But personally I do not do well with drugs and have to be extremely careful due to adverse reactions. I just lived day by day and still do. Still spend many days just lying in bed and crying. I am not sure anyone can tell you what to do. We all experience grief in our own way.

Hi Clarion,
I'm so sorry to hear of your wife's death. My husband died in July, 2024. I understand how hard this time is for both of us. What I have done is turn to God for help and I have gotten help from him; a lot of help. I know that my husband is up in Heaven and out of pain. So is your wife. Eventually we will be reunited with our loved ones in Heaven. However, it's all in God's time and not ours. That makes it difficult for those of us left behind. But if we have faith and pray it will be much easier for us. Just talk to God like he's your best friend and he is! God directed neighbors and strangers to help me through this time and it has helped. He also found the Mayo Forum for me. This forum has been so comforting. There are many good people on it who just want to help you through a bad time. I wish you the best. I'll say a prayer for you.
PML

@thisismarilynb - I think you are right, the longer you have been together, the worse it is. My wife passed away unexpectedly at our home on Feb 13, 2025, and we were married 52 years last May. Not sure how I'm going to deal with our anniversary this coming May. She was my best friend, and we did everything together, did a lot of traveling and I love her dearly. I have joined an in-person support group for those who lost a spouse or partner, first meeting in 7 days. And there are some on-line support groups as well. Not sure if Connect has an on-line support group. I hope in the near future you can find some relief from your grief. Wish you well. Ed

Of course you feel lost. That makes sense. I am so terribly sorry for your loss. I would try to just make it through each day the best you can. In time, I think you will adjust more to this very difficult change. I am praying for you.

Since I lost my partner of 22 yrs I've been waiting for my life to return to normal and it's not! She died oct 13 2022! I cry 4 her every day!! It's very hard. Grief isn't for woosies! It's there every day. It's NOT one day at a time, it's one moment at a time! I wish u the best clarion o1. If it helps, see a medium. That's what I've been doing. AND see a therapist to help. That's what I do also. I wish u the very best....hugs to u.