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Inconsiderate, intimidating neighbors cause depression and anxiety?

Posted by robertwills @robertwills, Oct 26, 2024

Lets; say you have neighbors that sit outside your apartment building, smoke "weed" in public view (which is illegal) and use intimidating gestures towards you as you come and go. Could this be enough to cause legitimate depression and anxiety?

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robertwills | @robertwills | 2 days ago
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@kndaustin71

Robertwills! Move! This has been going on a long time and you need to come to terms with it. It will not get better and it is making you ill at ease, paranoiac, ....this is no way to live. At some point with all due respect you have become part of the problem and not the solution.!

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kdalda75: Thank you for your concern and opinion. I value it and I have thought about moving, obviously. But I can assure you that I have confirmed there is a legal process underway and the men will no longer be here in the near, or very near, future.

As I indicated previously, this location is perfect for me; any other place is less ideal and who knows what neighbors I may have then? Plus, moving entails lots of things that I do not want to go through right now. This is a very nice place and the owner wants to keep it that way. This situation will in fact be ending soon.

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pml | @pml | 1 day ago
In reply to @robertwills "Update: The men are still here. Almost everyday has been some kind issue here. This just..." + (show)
@robertwills

Update: The men are still here. Almost everyday has been some kind issue here. This just keeps going on and on and on and my life revolves around the situation. I realized recently that it could be that all or most of these men are not just "guests" but people who moved in when the legal residents moved in. There may be ten people living in one apartment! What concerns me though is who are all these people? As I indicated previously one has a very troubled past.

What this has also done is make me suspicious of everyone I do not know in the building! I used to always say "Hello" to everyone without reservation but now I have to focus on what they look like and how they act before I say hello and I'm sure my face reflects the tension, and disgust, I am feeling. It's made me look like I'm not that friendly of a neighbor that I actually am, or was, unfortunately. This situation has made me paranoid in the place that I live!

Thanks for listening. I will update again when something happens.

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Robert,
I'm so sorry this keeps happening to you! But we'll keep praying. God will work things out for you but often he takes a long time. Fifty years ago, God took 2 years of my praying to get rid of my migraine headaches but he did. Even the doctor said the headaches quit because of God answering my prayers finally. I haven't had a headache since! So God will straighten things out for you but just keep praying and so will I. Moving may be a solution but it shouldn't have to be unless you want that. Thank you for all of your updates. Without them, we'd all be very worried about you. We're still worried but at least we know what's happening.
Try and have a good evening,
PML

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kb2014 | @kb2014 | 1 day ago
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@kndaustin71

Robertwills! Move! This has been going on a long time and you need to come to terms with it. It will not get better and it is making you ill at ease, paranoiac, ....this is no way to live. At some point with all due respect you have become part of the problem and not the solution.!

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I agree. Move. I do not think waiting for something or someone to remove these people is going to happen
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kdalda75 | @kndaustin71 | 1 day ago
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I agree. Move. I do not think waiting for something or someone to remove these people is going to happen
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you've been saying this for literally months. Be proactive in helping yourself!

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robertwills | @robertwills | 1 day ago

Thank you for your concern. I value your advice. Yes, it has been months. The legal process takes time but I will state again, in my case the men will be gone at any time now. I do not have to be proactive. I need to keep my wits about me and be very careful until they are gone.

Today I had a little scare. There was a man who I did not recognize and their behavior was not one of a residents, including the men. Then I looked more closely and it seemed like he could have been a law enforcement officer, which is a really good thing! On the other hand they could have been a meter reader.

When this is over I am going to celebrate.

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kb2014 | @kb2014 | 7 hours ago

We have to be proactive and help ourselves even in the face of incredible adversity. I have done the same in my life. Especially if my health and safety were at risk. No one can help you unless you help yourself. We also have to willing to receive the help. And move forward every day.

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robertwills | @robertwills | 5 hours ago

I always try to be proactive, to control my future, and in this case I have done, and am doing, what I can given the whole situation. That's not saying all my decisions are always good. Given the totally bizarre nature of the environment here and the significant danger I will give myself a lot of credit regardless.

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