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Just can't handle this any more
Things have gone from bad to worse. As I said we went for another chest x-ray and 2 more doc. apts. At the one the doc asked if he was taking his symbicort (which of course he wasn't because he has problems with EVERYTHING he get prescribed) and he gave the doc an evasive answer about why he was not. So I stepped in and told the doc the REAL reason only to have H break in and say he would start taking it again.
I am tired, I am worn out, I get pleasure out of nothing. I am so sick of the constant hacking and checking out his phlegm, of getting prescriptions that he takes a few times and then claims he is having problems with them BUT doesn't call doc about said problems. The constant grunting and groaning. The constant bitching about the house---when I clean he smells it and it sets off his lungs (even when I am just using plain water and wiping down the floors!), and then when I say fine, heck with it, he bitches that I am not cleaning and dusting enough.
It came to a head this weekend. I actually threw a plate on the floor after he hacked and checked at the table while we were eating. I am done.
Of course now it is my fault, I don't love him, he wants a divorce, he is going out and maybe won't come back.....all MY fault.
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1 ReactionHello. I recommend you get help with respite care. There are many agencies that provide this service. Sometimes private or Medicare insurance will offer this to the caretaker of the insured. Good luck , and yes care for yourself, It’s easy to neglect your own health, physical and mental when caring for a dementia patient. Remember if you are not well, you won’t be able to help anyone…please receive a big bear hug from me. And let me tell you how blessed your husband is for having you as his mate.
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1 ReactionYou have got to get help if he wants it or not. You are burned out and he doesn’t mean to be disrespectful but he is. Even if a neighbor can come for a couple of hours so you can breathe. He doesn’t realize how lucky he is to have you. He would be in an assisted living place without you. My husband is doing well enough now that I don’t need the help but there was a point I was begging the doctors to admit him for his very out of control dementia. He had cdiff at that point and drs didn’t understand what I was going through til they saw him and did admit him for that. So I got a break then. Maybe something medically is going on that causes him to be so rude. Please take care of yourself somehow. Call Dr for programs. Yes the Dr only see our husbands in the office for a minute and boy are they good at fooling people. I have said before I also call ahead of appointments to let them know the true story. Hang in there. Hugs and prayers.
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5 ReactionsI was on another thread and recently found out in our area that there is a program called seniors helping seniors maybe you could check it out? Of course it’s not free? I understand the hacking my husband has the same issue he has tried everything but nothing seems to help so we are now trying Zyrtec at night and I do believe it is helping a little that is when I remember to give it to him at night, I now have it on my table next to my recliner. I am so with you I blew up today, cried and hated myself for doing it. 😍
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