Can someone addicted to meth recover and become sober? Worried father

@kuma1106
You are in very tough situation wanting to help, but addictions can be a vicious cycle. If interested in connecting with others families and friends who are dealing with addicts, you might check out following two groups:

Al-anon
https://al-anon.org/
Nar-anon
https://www.nar-anon.org/
It probably does not matter which group your seeking help from, people trying to help addicts face similar struggles.

Thank you very much for the comment. I am going to take a look that pages.

@kuma1106, addiction is an equal-opportunity disease, affecting anyone it can. Please know that your son is still the kind and intelligent person he’s always been. He is your son first, suffering from the disease of addiction—not the disease itself.

It’s also important to understand that it may take multiple treatment episodes before recovery truly sticks. Your son is very fortunate to have such a loving support system.

@roch provided you with an excellent resource—connecting with others who are going through similar experiences.
@kuma1106, Have you had the chance to explore the resources provided and attend any of the sessions? Have you been able to make helpful connections?

Thank you very much for the advice. No, I have not attended yet. I am going to try it.

As an ex-drug user, I can say anything is possible as long as the person affected by the addiction decides to stop. It has to come from within as it is a painful journey. My personal reason was as a result of being subjected to a home invasion by two associates, one that I considered a friend. This betrayal led me to realise that meth changes people to the extent that nothing matters but them and getting their fix. It took me almost a year to stop everything, I was a pot user prior but was introduced to meth when my first wife died of cancer, and I had no concern for myself and the repercussions of starting such a dirty, filthy drug. Where there is life there is hope.

Kuma,
I have been clean from meth and all mood altering drugs (which includes alcohol) for over 30 years as of today.

I went to a treatment center for 28 days where I was introduced to Narcotics Anonymous, a 12 step program modeled after Alcoholics Anonymous. Treatment centers can only give you the knowledge needed to stay clean. The members of NA taught me how to use the knowledge, how to live life clean, gave me a safe place to interact with other recovering addicts, how to dance clean, how to deal with people. In short, NA gave me a life worth living.
But nothing can be done until your son is willing to change. A treatment center can only keep him clean while he is under their roof, after that it is up to him to do the work. If he is unwilling to do the work the ends are always the same for the addict, jails, institutions and death.
Go to alanon, in person. Attend meetings with others who's life is being effected be the disease of addiction. You can find a meeting online or in the phone book.
al-anon.org
Everyone changes when they use, especially meth.
It's more than the 'high' of using he is chasing, the high left him long ago. He is trying to get back to normal, enjoying the adrenaline rush of scoring a sack of meth, enjoying the wheeling and dealing of the drug trade, enjoying the like minded women that are in the drug trade, the control and chaos. He has a long road ahead of him but you can not do it for him. Your job is to never give up hope and pray he finds the rooms of recovery before it's too late.

Do you have any idea if your son has brain damage from his addiction? The brain can heal. The process is known as neuroplasticity. I never used street drugs or drank alcohol. Support groups are very helpful. I am in this one plus another. Today I attend my third one for the first time. I have learned clearly what I control and what I do not. That is crucial to recovery.

Yes, yes, yes.

With enough love and care for the body mind and spirit one can recover from anything.

That I have is proof that it is possible.

May peace and good health come to your son and your whole family,

Addiction sickens everyone. You’ll recover best together.

My husband was prescribed oxycodones for spinal stenosis and degenerative disc disease. This was in 2008. He has abused them ever since and has ruined our marriage. We are still together because I refused to get a divorce and have him end up getting half of the money for the sale of our house, and half of my pension. Now he has advanced copd and late stage iv lung cancer. the palliative care team added oxycontin to the mix. This is right up his alley. I do not believe he is in as much pain as he lets on He was just admitted to the hospital on Dec 15 because he went into respiratory distress. This is more from the copd. They were only giving him 5 mg of oxycodone when he is used to getting 100 mg a day. And he told me and the doctors that he was not in much pain. Well, Wednesday DEc 18, he signed an AMA form for me to come get him. I know that he just wanted to come home and get his pills. I Am afraid that when the cancer gets worse, the pills will no longer help him as he has built up such a tolerance to them. I also have a girlfriend whose daughter became addicted to heroin. This was many years ago. She also lied, stole money from them and a gun. She has been in and out of rehab and jail, also. To this day, she is still using. So I attended several Nar-Anon conferences with my friend. The stories these people shared about their loved ones was incredible. Some were very sad and others were uplifting. I felt God in that room more so than in any church. My friend finally adopted the motto, "Let Go. Let God". We can't change the addict. We can't make them quit. This is something that they have to want to do themselves. All we can do is put it in God's hands and pray. Hopefully, your son will come to realize that some day. But you should really attend some nar-anon meetings. They are great and make you feel no so all alone. God bless you and your son.

I am a recovering alcoholic, sober 25 years and was going to reply to the original post. However, I have nothing to add to this complete and beautifully written post. In the beginning, the addict/alcoholic has to believe they have a problem and the willingness to want to change.