I feel like start running and not look back!

Posted by mariana739 @mariana739, Aug 10 5:39pm

Hello,
I haven't been back here for a while. Today is been a bad day seeing my husband behavior. He was diagnosed with MCD on Jan 2023, he’s been taking the pills since then, I never expected the pills to do a significant change BTW, his memory has gotten worse but it's not that what is driving me mad.
He spends all his waking hours, which sometimes go until 1-2am, working outside in the yard (this is AZ, 3 digits heat now) on his "projects". The problem is those projects always result in leaving the yard worse than it was, look at the photos. These are from the latest one: a water feature he was going to built among the retaining wall rocks. The first one is from when I thought he was finished with it, is nothing like you'd expect a water feature to be but I thought thanks God he’s done with it. The second photo is from today when he’s undone all that and he keeps digging
around for what? I don't know. Then he’s breaking the cement on the border of the patio bricks, if I ask why he draws a blank.
Selling the house would be the only way to get money in the event he lives long enough for the disease to get to the last stage and I won't accept to be his only caregiver since we have no family to rely on. I feel so stressed thinking how his doing will decrease the value of the house.
What can I do?

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bayviewgal | @bayviewgal | Oct 24 4:14pm

In reply to @celia16 "I’m quite curious about this condition. Besides the loss of verbal skills, what cognitive difference do..." + (show)

@celia16 The biggest difference for him is he inability to recognize everyday objects. Not all of them but a lot of them and not ALL time. And he has a hard time reading.

1995victoria | @1995victoria | Oct 25 11:13am

Current Issue of Brain & Life (Will Shortz on cover) has a terrific article about being a caregiver. B&L is a free printed magazine or you can read online digital copy....

1995victoria | @1995victoria | Oct 26 2:12pm

Just thought you might find interesting New York Times article on Oct 23, 2024.......When Dementia Changes a Loved One’s Personality.......I believe you can get 10 articles a month even if you're not a subscriber....

celia16 | @celia16 | 2 days ago

Home health aid started last week for my dad and it was very challenging. My dad was incredibly resistant and we had to exert extraordinary measures to make it work. Man, it’s a shame to work so hard to help someone and they resist the help. It’s 2 days a week for now. Hopefully it’ll increase soon, despite his protests.