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Ready to throw in the towel ... never imagined I'd be this sad
Mental Health | Last Active: Oct 19, 2016 | Replies (18)Comment receiving replies
I'm 70 and for some reason just love to stay home. My husband, younger but not as healthy, works from home. We go everywhere together. We really enjoy each other's company. My fear is he will die and I will really feel alone because we're together all the time now. His parents were the same so to him it's perfectly normal.
Also, my mother never had neighbors in. She went to lunch monthly. She lived to be 99 and sharp as a tack. But towards the end she was lonely even though I visited often.
My friends all moved! At 65-70 to NC, TN, SC. Two died. We live in New England. So my kids have their lives at 50 and 45 and my friends retired and moved out of large homes to retirement communities.
I really like my life now but will be pretty alone if I outlive my husband.
Older age has come on very fast.
Thank God I'm not depressed about it but concerned about being alone if it comes to that.
I don't want to volunteer, join clubs, make friends now. So... It's going to be my fault if I'm alone later in life.
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My niece is bi-polar. She is a sweet heart when on her meds, she doesn't like the way they make her feel so she goes off them and is all over the place causing trouble. She has a child that she is mentally abusing. Thank God for her husband, he is the rock in that family. I hope he sticks it out.
I had another friend in Arizona that would go off her meds and then run off into the dessert and everyone had to look for her before she died of exposure.
My point....when they give you meds take them. Don't stop. Call the doctor and get them changed but keep taking them.
I wish you luck in getting a job and getting rid of your debt.
I hope we keep talking so you know you have a friend.
Oh, believe me ..... I have always followed their directions to a "T."
Abby
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Hi Margaret .... like you, I am very much a home body. But, down here, nothing feels like home. I saw my therapist and Psychiatrist last Tuesday and finally got the diagnosis of Bipolar II, which is just a milder form of the Bipolar I we often think about. My "down"part is the most predominant - usually always there, rarely a day I don't wake up not wanting to get out of bed. The "up" part for me isn't manic as such, it's just high anxiety. The few times I have felt really good were reactions from meds. (Prednisone for hives), I went on total on-line shopping sprees. So, now I've got 2 CC's to pay off. When I do move about 15-20 miles from here to this "old age place" .... that's what I call it ...... I have got to get a job to get these cards paid off. I just want to feel "normal" .... whatever that is.
Abby