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My husband will be 69 in January, he was diagnosised with ALZ three years ago, but I'm sure he was suffering with it for at least two years prior to that. He has always been quiet, but the ALZ has made him more "bold" in his comments and actions. I am younger and have to work fulltime, he does well at home and still just suffers from the short term memory and processing. My biggest hurdle has been his driving. The doctors have all said for 2 years he should not drive. However, when I take that away it takes his independence and pride. I have really struggled with what to do. I did go to one vehicle so when he does drives I'm either in the car or he goes short distances. I know the risks and at this point so does he. He has a friend that takes him places sometimes, but not often and I don't want to impose. He also has other medical problems that require diffirent specialists so I miss a lot of work taking him to those appointments. Any words of wisdom or advice on how to determine when stop his driving altogether or possible safety suggestions?
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Thanks @ozys. I will definitely be in touch with the VA later this week.The Redhead
At one of the appointments we had with the neurology department at the VA hospital, I mentioned that my family was concerned for my health if I continued to care for my husband at home, and they referred me to the local Social Worker at the local VA Clinic. She called very soon and we discussed what would be most helpful for me. We were given respite care which was provided by a local care group at 6 hours a week, and then in November when we reassessed the care, we were assigned 3 hours a week for each home health and homemaker. She said we would probably be assigned respite care after the first of the year again. This help has really made a difference.
Hey Redhead,
They are talking about the VA Home Health Aid Program. The VA qualifies and pays the private company to come in and help depending on your needs. You might look into the VA Aid and Attendance Program, there is a financial need that has to be met for that, but once you get approved the benefit comes directly to you in the way of a direct deposit and you determine how to use the monthly monetary benefit. The process is difficult but there are several organizations that will help, DAV; AMVETS; and such. Go to http://www.VA.gov and search for Aid and Attendance for the details. If you qualify for it, I can assure you it IS WORTH IT!! My Mother was qualified for it last year and it has made a big difference. Good luck!!
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Hi there TNTRedhead:
When we went for the yearly check up with my husband's primary care doc at the VA, I just told them I needed help with care and
they gave him 12 hours a week through the senior center here. However, the senior center does not have the program to bill VA
so only receive six hours for now and when we really need the other six hours, will go back to VA and get help. VA also supplied
the hospital bed which is just a wonderful gift. My husband has a horrible time with balance and getting up and down so the rails
on the bed have been wonderful. There will be a monthly nurse also once I request it. Just think of the help you need and ask,
they can refuse but more is being done everyday for our vets. Good Luck and keep on as best you can. Ozys