@crankyyankee ,
I would be grateful to know if you ever found enjoyable activities for your husband? My father has lived with my husband and I for the last four years, after my mother died. He is your husband’s age. He is pretty clear-minded and has a great disposition and sense of humor! But it is tough for him, as he has mobility issues, macular degeneration , hearing loss (still adjusting to hearing aids and doesn’t like to wear them consistently). I have researched so many things available in our community that might help him feel more engaged, and he has tried a couple that were not what he had hoped for (ie our library has lectures and discussion groups, etc). He is hesitant to go to a seniors center to play cards, bingo, etc due to his sight challenges. He really wants something where he can socialize without having to “perform”. He is unsatisfied with just having outings with me, his daughter ( not really ungrateful I don’t think, just not satisfied). I have tried to be really creative, to come up with things he would enjoy, etc. I totally understand that he wants more. A neighbor woman in the same boat as my dad has tried to initiate a friendship, but he is apprehensive/not receptive (maybe feels like it he would not being loyal to my moms memory?) I have been meticulous in his physical care, and I want to help him feel more engaged and active….any suggestions? (And I do take him shopping, drives, scooter “walks” around the neighborhood, out for meals and snacks, haircuts, leaving him his laundry to fold and put away himself, asking him to help me with potted plants, etc). Does any one know of places elderly people can go to just meet each other and converse, where it is safe?