Sex drive

Menopause does result in decreased estrogen and progesterone, which is a factor that is likely a gradual change. Doctors and you can evaluate is hormone replacement is good (impacts breast cancer risk, other pros and cons). Getting older is a factor with less energy (at 70 I don't bounce off walls as well) and also collecting diseases impacts drive. Sex also takes more effort (and lube). Most partners don't know where the pertinent nerves are, and for men blood flow tends to decrease down there (ED). Here is a link and there are books/papers on staying frisky when older. https://www.hopkinsmedicine.org/health/wellness-and-prevention/how-sex-changes-after-menopause#:~:text=Your%20estrogen%20takes%20a%20nosedive,for%20you%20to%20become%20aroused.

@dani349
Good question! I would second everything that @kayabbott said and will add that anxiety about your health and the impact of some medications impact libido.
It’s definitely worth a talk with your GYN as sexual expression is important in relationships and to each of us as humans.
We shouldn’t just accept that it’s one of the inevitable impacts of menopause, illness or aging.
I’m so glad you brought this up. Have you talked to any of your doctors about it?

Hey ! Yes so my hem/onc doc says it's nothing with SLL . If it continues contact my primary. I'm thinking it's mental. I've been tired and it's stressing me out whether it's related to SLL or work! So I think that's it..

@dani349
It happens. It’s not like we don’t have anything to preoccupy us. The Mayo has a seemingly inexhaustible supply of useful information and I found this helpful. https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/low-sex-drive-in-women/symptoms-causes/syc-20374554#:~:text=Factors%20that%20can%20raise%20the,affect%20your%20state%20of%20mind.

70 yrs old, oral chemo for six years for ET. No libido side effects here, but husband is advised to use a condom (as are most partners of those using ongoing chemo), and he doesn't wanna. ET probably won't kill you if you treat it, but it can kill the mood.

@nohrt4me
*sigh
I don’t know what it is with guys and condoms. They are available in so many different styles now. Might be fun to pick some out together to try if you are both willing. There are all kinds of condom stores on the internet with an infinite variety.
Safety first.

Thank you ! I'll look into it

Hello, I believe I am the other way. I haven't had a partner in many years, mainly because I am disable and don't get out of the house to meet anyone and I didn't have a partner before I became disabled, but I have never had a low sex drive. In fact I am the opposite. I would love to continue to have sex, but because of my disability I have no idea how it will affect me. I have nerve pain constantly but if I met someone I would be willing to try. Does anyone else have this issue?